A lot of guys aren’t sure how to flirt through text. Fortunately, The Art of Charm has spent many, many hours analyzing and studying the art of flirting through text. How can you flirt via text and make the most out of it? It’s actually a lot easier than you think. But it’s important to know the do’s as well as the don’t when it comes to texting. Here’s a crash course.
Do: Flirt Over Text
Texting isn’t a good way to get to know someone. It is, however, a great way to flirt with her, create interest and deepen attraction. So don’t underestimate the value of flirting through text. Use text and other text-based forms of communication for flirting. Especially for men who are a little shy, it can be a great way to say things you might be nervous about saying in person.
Don’t: Get to Know Her
So why not get to know her while you’re at it? Basically because you’re missing out on a huge part of what makes communication what it is. There’s no body language. There’s no tone of voice. It’s just words. Save getting to know her for when the two of you are actually together.
Do: Get Her to Go on a Date
Texting isn’t an end to itself. You want to always be moving things toward getting her to go on a date with you. When you reach a high point in the discussion, you want to tell her that the two of you should get together. Suggest a date and try to maintain that playful tone!
Don’t: Waste Your Time
Not everyone is going to be interested in you. That’s fine. Instead of sinking endless hours into someone who just isn’t that into communicating with you, spend your time on people who are. If you’re texting her and getting one-word responses, move on. The energy you’re putting into it would be better used finding someone else.
As a man, it’s kind of your job to initiate. Sorry, but it’s hard-wired into our species through thousands of years of human evolution. Don’t always wait for her to be the one to contact you. Because more often than not, it’s going to mean that she starts looking for someone else.
Don’t: Respond Immediately All the Time
We’re not saying that you should keep girls hanging for the sake of it. However, don’t feel like you need to respond right away to everything that she says to you. Give yourself room to breathe. Give yourself space. That’s the best way. You’ll come across as confident and you’ll give her the space to want you.
Do: Use Emoticons
Sure, you don’t use them with your bros.. but she’s not one of your bros. Emoticons keep things light and playful and they allow you to communicate when you’re joking around. Remember what we said earlier about how texting removes a lot of how people communicate? Emoticons are by no means a perfect replacement, but they help to restore some of what gets lost. So by all means, explore the wonders of flirting through text. Just be tactful about it.