The Texting Game: How to Play, How to Win

The texting game is a part of 21st Century attraction. Still, a lot of men aren’t sure how to play the texting game. Even fewer know how to win it. The good news? Texting is a powerful tool that any man can quickly learn and master to increase his social effectiveness with women. Here’s your quick guide to the texting game and how you can become the champion of it.

young woman sending a text messageRemind Her Why You Two Had a Good Time

One of the great things about texting is that it eliminates the whole “when is the appropriate time to call her” game. You can pretty much text her whenever. The best way to open a conversation with a woman that you want to start texting with is to recall some awesome detail from the night before. That will remind her that you two had a real connection while also reminding her of some of the fun that the two of your had together.

Flirt Over Text

Flirting over text is a great way to keep the excitement going and keep her interested. Be playful and don’t be afraid to drop an emoticon in here and there. That has the same effect in text form as smiling does in real life — letting her know that you’re keeping things light and playful. You might feel a little silly texting her a smiley face at first, but trust me, it’s the way to go.

Move Toward a Date

One thing that you don’t want to do is just let things hang in the air. On the contrary, you want to be moving forward in your texting toward the end goal — getting her to agree to meet up with you in person. Keep your eyes on the prize as you play the texting game. The true test of whether or not you’ve won is whether or not she wants to go out with you some time. Move things toward that place by reminding her of the things that you have in common and finally by suggesting that you two get together and do one of them some time.

Save Rapport for In Person

Don’t have “getting to know you” type conversations when you’re texting. Instead, you want to save that for when the two of you are actually together. The reason being, only 10 percent of your communication has to do with the words that you use. The other 90s percent is communicated through body language and your tone of voice. This means that when you’re “getting to know each other” via text, you’re not really getting to know each other at all.

Text for Logistics

Once you’ve made a date, it’s OK to flirt a little. But mostly you want to use the texting game to schedule your date and to take care of logistics. Figure out where you’re meeting, what time, who is picking up whom and other essentials to making sure that your date goes off without a hitch.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1048 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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