AJ Harbinger

“Your network is your net worth”

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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.

Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

The Art of Charm Podcast would go on to become one of the largest and most successful lifestyle podcasts in the world. What started out as two graduate students conversing and laughing in a basement in Ann Arbor has turned into a top rated podcast and highly sought after coaching business. After seeing an opportunity to grow The Art of Charm, AJ made the difficult decision to leave the laboratory and graduate school and take a risky leap into the world of entrepreneurship.

Today, AJ and his co-founders teach people from all over the world how to create, develop, and maintain top business and personal relationships. It is often said that the best learning can be found in teaching a subject – for AJ, it was in coaching others towards success, that he was able to rekindle his own confidence and passion. The love of science and the desire to understand relationships at an elemental level had stopped being separate paths and interests for AJ and now merged into a single focus.

Men have traveled from over 50 countries to attend Bootcamp. Each week at their headquarters in Los Angeles these men discover how to be the best version of themselves.  AJ’s mantra is “your network is your net worth” — and this value is what he develops in each of his students.

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Five Obstacles You Didn’t Know Were There


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Google phrases like “biggest obstacles” or “overcoming obstacles in life,” and what you’ll find is a lot of boilerplate that could have been written by the Advice-O-Matic 2000. You don’t need me to tell you that high levels of debt, toxic “friends” or a lack of mental endurance are major hurdles to personal growth. Still, you’ll find piece after piece … Read More


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Marsha Shandur: Saying Yes to Networking


Do you like networking or is it just a necessary evil only to be done when absolutely necessary? Sharpen your skill set with this episode of AoC.

“Networking is a long-term relationship, not a one-night stand.” -Marsha Shandur Networking. The word alone probably conjures up some unpleasant associations. Probably a smarmy guy forcing his presence on you, insinuating himself into your conversation, thrusting a business card into your hand as he suggests, with a false smile, that you “do lunch.” Yuck. Networking shouldn’t be anything like that, … Read More


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The Crisis of Masculinity


On a recent episode of The Art of Charm Podcast, Craig Wilkinson shared an illuminating story about his native South Africa. In some areas, he explained, elephant populations grow too large. So park rangers have two options: They can start shooting the elephants, or they can move some elephants to another location. In one case, rangers opted for the latter, … Read More


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How to Leave a Job on Good Terms


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Everyone has pondered the question of how to leave a job, but the more important question is how to leave a job on good terms. As a man, your relationship with your career might be even more passionate and intense than anything you’ve ever had with a woman. If it’s not, it’s probably the most important thing in your life … Read More


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How to Break Up Without Being a Jerk


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One of the most common scenarios I encounter as a coach is working with guys who are in mediocre relationships. They’re not thrilled about their significant others, yet they stay with them, month after month, year after year. Why? Sometimes it’s a shared history that keeps them together. In other cases, it’s the fear of being alone. (On the Periodic … Read More


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Why It’s Awesome to Be Single on Valentine’s Day


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It’s almost a cliché at this point, but we’re going to say it anyway: Being single on Valentine’s Day is awesome. But not for the obvious reasons. Being unattached on February 14 isn’t awesome because you get to save money, or because your time is better spent binging on Netflix. And it’s definitely not awesome because couples are boring and … Read More


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