AJ Harbinger

“Your network is your net worth”

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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.

Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

The Art of Charm Podcast would go on to become one of the largest and most successful lifestyle podcasts in the world. What started out as two graduate students conversing and laughing in a basement in Ann Arbor has turned into a top rated podcast and highly sought after coaching business. After seeing an opportunity to grow The Art of Charm, AJ made the difficult decision to leave the laboratory and graduate school and take a risky leap into the world of entrepreneurship.

Today, AJ and his co-founders teach people from all over the world how to create, develop, and maintain top business and personal relationships. It is often said that the best learning can be found in teaching a subject – for AJ, it was in coaching others towards success, that he was able to rekindle his own confidence and passion. The love of science and the desire to understand relationships at an elemental level had stopped being separate paths and interests for AJ and now merged into a single focus.

Men have traveled from over 50 countries to attend Bootcamp. Each week at their headquarters in Los Angeles these men discover how to be the best version of themselves.  AJ’s mantra is “your network is your net worth” — and this value is what he develops in each of his students.

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Toolbox: Biggest Myth With Small Talk & 3 Mistakes to Avoid


In today’s episode, we cover the science of small talk with AJ and Johnny.  Small talk can feel like a chore these days, but why is it important that we make small talk with people throughout the day, how do we make it fun and engaging, and why is it detrimental to our relationships and community to avoid or ignore … Read More


in Building A Connection, Life Hacks, Marriage & Relationships, Podcast, Self Mastery, Toolbox Episodes

Brad Lomenick | 3 Steps to Effective Leadership & Getting the Feedback You Need to Succeed


In today’s episode, we cover leadership with Brad Lomenick. Brad is a leadership consultant, speaker, founder of BLINC, and author of The Catalyst Leader and H3 Leadership. He writes about leadership, the next generation, creativity, innovation, social media, teamwork, and personal growth.  Effective leadership is built on a few powerful traits anyone can learn, but what are they, what is … Read More


in Business, Connecting, Empowerment, Entrepreneurship, Making Friends, Networking, Podcast, Productivity, Relationships, Self Mastery

Matthew Pollard | The Networking Mindset for Success and Why Introverts Have the Edge


In today’s episode, we cover networking as an introvert with Matthew Pollard. Matthew is an internationally-recognized consultant, speaker, author, serial entrepreneur with five multi-million dollar business success stories under his belt, and the author of his newest book The Introvert’s Edge to Networking. Networking when you’re an introvert can feel like a daunting task, so how do successful introverts do … Read More


in Art of Business, Bonus Episodes, Deal Making & Negotiations, Entrepreneurship, Life Hacks, Podcast

Spark Your Creativity and Innovate Today with Michael Hendrix & Panos Panay


In today’s episode, we cover the power of music and listening with Panos A. Panay and R. Michael Hendrix. Panay is a Cypress-born entrepreneur and educator, Hendrix is an American graphic designer and entrepreneur, and both are the authors of Two Beats Ahead: What Musical Minds Teach Us About Innovation, featuring interviews with some of the top creative geniuses of … Read More


in Art of Business, Art of Personal Development, Building A Connection, Empowerment, Entrepreneurship, Finding Your Purpose, Networking, Podcast

Dr. Janina Scarlet | Your Superhero Identity & the Power of Heroic Stories


In today’s episode, we cover superhero therapy with Dr. Janina Scarlet. Dr. Janina Scarlet is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, author, TEDx speaker, and a full-time geek who immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD.  Effective therapy can … Read More


in Art of Personal Development, Confidence, Empowerment, Finding Your Purpose, Life Hacks, Podcast, Podcasts, Self Mastery

Tal Ben-Shahar | The Secret to Being Happy in the Modern World & 3 Tips to Conquer Screen Addiction


In today’s episode, we cover happiness and positive psychology with Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar. Tal Ben-Shahar taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University’s history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership, and now consults and lectures around the world to executives in multinational corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. Finding happiness in the chaos of life has been … Read More


in Building A Connection, Confidence, Life Hacks, Lifestyle, Making Friends, Marriage & Relationships, Podcast, Self Mastery

Tasha Eurich | The Secret to Self Awareness & 3 Strategies to Conquer Your Blindspots


In today’s episode, we cover self-awareness with Dr. Tasha Eurich. Tasha is an organizational psychologist, executive coach, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author of Insight and Bankable Leadership. Self-awareness is crucial when it comes to understanding ourselves and the people around us, but how do you go about developing it, what are the biggest misconceptions about it, and what … Read More


in Art of Personal Development, Confidence, Empowerment, Life Hacks, Podcast, Self Mastery

The Cheat Code to Building Deep Relationships and Being Unforgettable Toolbox


In today’s episode, we cover emotional bids with AJ and Johnny. Understanding emotional bids is the cheat code to building great relationships, but what are they, how do you recognize them, and why does ignoring them lead to the end of relationships? What to Listen For Why are Emotional Bids Important – 2:25  Why is it so important to your … Read More


in Building A Connection, Confidence, Life Hacks, Making Friends, Marriage & Relationships, Podcast, Self Mastery, Toolbox Episodes

Mira Kirshenbaum | The Biggest Myth About Arguments & How to Deal With Finances In A Relationship


In today’s episode, we cover relationships and conflict resolution with Mira Kirshenbaum. Mira is the author of eleven books, the co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston, an internationally recognized center for research and psychotherapy for couples, families and individuals, and has been a workshop leader and trainer for medical professionals at Harvard Medical School and … Read More


in Art of Dating, Art of Personal Development, Building A Connection, Confidence, Marriage & Relationships, Podcast

Amy Chan | The Secret Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship & Surviving a Breakup


In today’s episode, we cover overcoming breakups with Amy Chan. Amy has been writing about relationships, dating, and love for over a decade is the Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club, and is the author of Breakup Bootcamp – The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. Introduction The end of a relationship can be a traumatic experience for many but it doesn’t … Read More


in Art of Dating, Art of Personal Development, Break-Ups & Divorce, Building A Connection, Dating Science, Empowerment, Marriage & Relationships, Podcast