Art of Dating

How to Hold Great Eye Contact


My friends don’t have it easy. They always serve as unknowing test subjects in my social experiments. I write “unknowing,” but I do feel like they suspect at least something. One clue is that their first question always seems to be: “What book are you currently reading?”. Probably a veiled attempt to foresee the experiment they are about to undergo. … Read More


in Art of Dating, Building A Connection, Confidence

Building Confidence — The Skyline of Life


Building Confidence -- The Skyline of Life

Confidence, like a building, takes a lot of effort to develop, regular maintenance to keep it in good shape, but just a single blow to destroy it. Here’s how to ensure you’re nurturing — and not abandoning — your confidence to the elements. [Photo by gags9999] It can take months, years, even decades to build a superstructure or sky rise … Read More


in Confidence, Self Mastery

How to Restore Your Confidence After It Takes A Hit


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If you’re working hard and taking chances in life, here’s an uncomfortable truth: You will fail from time to time, and certainly more than the average person. The cost of confronting your limitations, of course, is your sense of confidence, the one quality we need to succeed and risk losing when we fail. Understanding how to restore confidence when it … Read More


in Art of Dating, Confidence

Birdman, Self-Doubt, and the Fear of Criticism


Birdman, Self-Doubt, and the Fear of Criticism

In this writer’s estimation, anyone who has ever attempted to make/do/create something (isn’t that all of us?) should be able to take away something from the movie Birdman.[Image by Fox Searchlight] Author’s note: There are minor Birdman spoilers in here. If you haven’t seen the film yet, reading this won’t necessarily ruin it for you, but some of this piece … Read More


in Confidence

How to Break Up Without Being a Jerk


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One of the most common scenarios I encounter as a coach is working with guys who are in mediocre relationships. They’re not thrilled about their significant others, yet they stay with them, month after month, year after year. Why? Sometimes it’s a shared history that keeps them together. In other cases, it’s the fear of being alone. (On the Periodic … Read More


in Break-Ups & Divorce