How to Hold Great Eye Contact
My friends don’t have it easy. They always serve as unknowing test subjects in my social experiments. I write “unknowing,” but I do feel like they suspect at least something. One clue is that their first question always seems to be: “What book are you currently reading?”. Probably a veiled attempt to foresee the experiment they are about to undergo. … Read More
in Art of Dating, Building A Connection, Confidence
How to Flirt with a Woman Without Being Sleazy
Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a woman without coming across as sleazy or creepy. To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead. Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll be able to make … Read More
in Art of Dating, Flirting And Attraction
Five Tips on How to Set Boundaries
I’ve learned that difficult situations can be handled peacefully and gracefully by implementing one simple practice: setting boundaries. Here now is my five-step plan on how to set effective boundaries. Let the liberation from being walked all over begin now! Read More
in Marriage & Relationships
Building Confidence — The Skyline of Life
Confidence, like a building, takes a lot of effort to develop, regular maintenance to keep it in good shape, but just a single blow to destroy it. Here’s how to ensure you’re nurturing — and not abandoning — your confidence to the elements. [Photo by gags9999] It can take months, years, even decades to build a superstructure or sky rise … Read More
in Confidence, Self Mastery
Why Hitting a Home Run Isn’t Always Your Best Move
Three strikes and you’re out. Keep waiting for the perfect pitch to hit a home run every time and you might win a few cheers, but you won’t win the game. Here’s how to play at your best. [Photo by CNU Sports] When the ball comes over home plate, a man’s first reaction is to try and hit it out … Read More
in Building A Connection, Networking
How to Restore Your Confidence After It Takes A Hit
If you’re working hard and taking chances in life, here’s an uncomfortable truth: You will fail from time to time, and certainly more than the average person. The cost of confronting your limitations, of course, is your sense of confidence, the one quality we need to succeed and risk losing when we fail. Understanding how to restore confidence when it … Read More
in Art of Dating, Confidence
Birdman, Self-Doubt, and the Fear of Criticism
In this writer’s estimation, anyone who has ever attempted to make/do/create something (isn’t that all of us?) should be able to take away something from the movie Birdman.[Image by Fox Searchlight] Author’s note: There are minor Birdman spoilers in here. If you haven’t seen the film yet, reading this won’t necessarily ruin it for you, but some of this piece … Read More
in Confidence
Meeting Chelsea: How I Approached One of My Heroes on the Street
She had already passed me on the street by the time I realized who she was. “Gotta go,” I blurted to my friend, and ended the call. It was a little brusque, but I knew she’d understand later. “Excuse me,” I called out, loudly enough to grab her attention but gently enough to not come across as some aggro dude … Read More
in Approaching A Woman, Art of Dating
How to Break up with Someone Nicely – The Art of Charm
One of the most common scenarios I encounter as a coach is working with guys who are in mediocre relationships. They’re not thrilled about their significant others, yet they stay with them, month after month, year after year. Why? Sometimes it’s a shared history that keeps them together. In other cases, it’s the fear of being alone. (On the Periodic … Read More
in Break-Ups & Divorce
8 Valentine’s Dates That Won’t Make You Look Like the Most Boring Man Alive
Let’s face it: Most Valentine’s Day dates are boring. Which is not to say that you’re boring. It’s just that most of the dates guys take girls on for Valentine’s Day are of the “been there, done that” variety. It doesn’t matter how nice the restaurant is or how great the cinema is: It’s still “dinner and a movie.” Been … Read More
in Art of Dating, Dating Tips