Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a girl without coming across as sleazy or creepy. To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead. Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll make a charming first impression with any woman.
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How to attract women with body language
One thing women find creepy in men is when a guy makes eye contact with a woman without ever blinking.
How do you avoid this common mistake men make when it comes to how to flirt with a girl without being creepy? Focus on making the right kind of eye contact. Avoid leering at a woman and focusing on one particular area of her with a hard, intense, unblinking stare. Instead, make women attracted to you right off the bat. Use a soft, relaxed gaze that allows you to take more of her in.
There is one trick to making that kind of charming and inviting eye contact. Smile with your eyes. You know that feeling you get in your eyes after laughing really hard? That is the same feeling you want to recreate when making eye contact with a woman you’ve never met. It projects friendliness and warmth which will get the girl interested in meeting you.
Once you’re comfortable holding eye contact with a woman you you find attractive, then you work on gauging her interest in you via her eye contact.
How to avoid being sleazy with women (with a slight shift in attitude)
Before you even approach a woman, keep something in mind. Make sure you don’t have her up on a pedestal. Looks are just a small piece of what makes women attractive.
So ask yourself: what else does she have going for her? Is she fun? Is she caring? Does she have an interesting life?
Having standards like this will take her off the pedestal and automatically ease some approach anxiety. It also helps you come across as a high-value man who is selective and confident with women. Not surprisingly, that will get more women attracted to you. And women are naturally attracted to men who other women cosign for by being in their presence.
Now, there is a trick to how to go about finding the answers to these questions. You don’t want to come out of the gate asking them as that can be overwhelming. Instead, when you first start a conversation with a girl, get the ball rolling with some fun, playful banter. Banter creates a relaxed and safe atmosphere. Then ask questions that will make her qualify herself to you. Questions like:
- What kind of adventures have you been up to lately?
- So what’s your deal?
- What do you do for fun?
By asking qualification questions like this, you challenge her to prove that she’s more than just a pretty face. That kind of challenge will only make you more attractive to the girl – and in itself can be enough to get her chasing you.
What women want in a man
Another thing that turns women off and makes them feel uneasy about a guy is when a guy appears “fake” – when his words and actions are incongruent with who he is and what he’s feeling. On the other hand, women are attracted to a guy who does the opposite, and shows integrity.
Showing integrity is as simple as standing by your thoughts/opinions/feelings –however, many guys slip up here. They think that to get a woman to like you, you need to agree with everything she says. But that’s not the case. A guy who is afraid to disagree with a woman just shows insecurity, neediness, and a lack of integrity. But by sticking to your guns and being willing to disagree with the girl, you actually become more attractive to women. It shows you’re not seeking approval, and that you’re a secure man who has confidence with women.
Here’s an example of what showing the integrity that women find attractive might look like: If you love Schwarzenegger movies and the girl you’re interested in or her friends say his movies are stupid, don’t start backtracking and say you don’t really like them either. Instead, stand up for yourself (and do it with a smile). Use it as an opportunity to have a bit of fun and start some playful banter with the girl. Maybe respond with something like “What!? Don’t you like Schwarzenegger movies? That’s it, this isn’t working out, I want a divorce. You can keep the beach house, but I want the boat. You never used that thing anyway…”
What to say to a girl you don’t know (without being creepy)
One last thing that can creep women out is when a guy is oblivious to social norms. A guy like that might be embarrassing to be with down the road. So she’s not going to be interested in dating him. So when approaching women to make sure you don’t creep them out, demonstrate that you’re a guy who understands social norms – even if you don’t follow them.
For example, meeting women in the daytime is not all that “normal” for many guys. Most guys have too much approach anxiety to approach an attractive girl on the street, subway, grocery store etc. So in situations like this, demonstrate that you understand starting a conversation with a girl you don’t know in the middle of the day is outside the norm… you just don’t care.
If you’re approaching a girl in the daytime then, start the conversation with the girl by saying something like “I know this is a bit weird, but I just wanted to come to meet you”. This shows that you understand the situation and you know you’re doing something out of the ordinary, but you’re confident enough that you don’t give a damn.
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