Playful Banter Examples: Be the Funny Guy Who Gets the Girl

banter examples Women love sense of humor. It tops all the women’s magazine polls about what women want in a man. So humorous, playful banter examples can be a very effective tool at sparking interest in a woman that you’ve just met. Best of all, this is a simple skill that basically any man can learn with a bit of practice.

Why Does Playful Banter Work?

When people are out and about at a bar or club, there’s a lot of pressure on. You want to look good, meet new people and have a good time, but you’re probably also a little nervous. So is everyone else. Humor is a great way to break up this tension, in both yourself and others and make people more relaxed. This is at the heart of why so many funny guys get women; They’re naturally talented at getting people to relax with a laugh.

Examples of Playful Banter

To get you started, we’re going to provide a few examples of playful banter that you can use until you get up and running. Once you’ve gotten your feet wet, you’ll have no trouble coming up with your own.

  • “You’d look great with a big purple Mohawk.”
  • “You girls look like trouble. Do you have any crimes planned for the night?”
  • “Did you save this seat for me?”
  • “Isn’t this a school night? Do your parents know that you’re out?”
  • “Welcome to the bar. Glad you could make it.”

Now how do we use this? First, it’s important to have a big smile. This helps to communicate that you’re joking around. Second, we have to commit to the absurdity of the banter line. For example, if she responds to your Mohawk line with “What?” or “I don’t think so!” you just keep smiling and say “No, really. I’m a hairdresser. I tell all the cute girls to get Mohawks.” If she says “Uh, no” when you ask if you saved her a seat, start inspecting the seat and say “Are you sure? I thought I saw my name on it.” or “Well, I can’t imagine why else you’d be sitting alone.” If she asks if you work at the bar after you greet her say “No, I’m just glad you could make it.”

Going with the absurdity of the situation is how we get her to laugh. Getting her to laugh is how we get her to relax and getting her to relax is how we have her thinking that you’re the best guy she’s met all night.

Knowing When Banter Is Over

Banter is only a way to open a door to attraction. At some point, you’re going to want to make things a little more serious and really get to know her as a person. That said, there’s no need to rush through banter. After all, it can be a lot of fun for both of you, especially if you have a good rapport. In general, it’s good to transition out of banter at a high point in the conversation, rather than a lull. We always want to end things on a high note and banter is no exception. Transition out simply by saying “You seem pretty cool” or “I dig you.” You can then get to know her better by asking her to tell you three things about herself. She’ll be relaxed and in good spirits — a great state to be in for getting to know each other.

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AJ Harbinger - author of 1050 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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