How to Build Attraction with a Friend

The friend zone. Every guy has been there at one point or another. You like her and she likes you… as a friend. It sucks and it’s not easy to turn around, but it is possible to get out. So how to build attraction with a friend? The Art of Charm is here to help you make it happen.

scrivere una cartolinaWhy You’re Already Halfway There

First, let’s start with the good news: You’re already half way there. After all, being a friend is a great thing. The two of you already have some emotional intimacy, as well as deep levels of trust. That’s something that you’re going to have to build if you want to be in a relationship with someone. You’ve already done a lot of the heavy lifting. Now it’s just about repositioning those feelings and making you less of a friend and more as the type of man she can see herself being romantic with.

Why Getting Out of the “Friend Zone” Is Hard

Now for the bad news: It’s not easy getting out of the friend zone. The reason being that “you never get a second chance to make a first impression.” The best way to get out of the friend zone is to not land there in the first place. This is because once she’s formed her impression of you as “just a friend” you need to undo all of that. That’s a lot of heavy lifting to do. Here’s how to do it.

Flirtatious Conversation

Flirting with her is a great way to start moving things from “just friends” to more than just friends. The same type of flirtatious conversation that you engage in with girls that you meet out at bars and clubs is what you should be doing with your friend. It increases sexual tension and also sends the subtle signal to her that you might be more than just friends one day — that that’s something that you would be interested in.

How to Build Attraction: Touch

Another great way to start ratcheting things up is touch. The good thing is that you two are already friends and friends are comfortable touching one another. Don’t be afraid to offer her back rubs and things like that. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the way to a woman’s heart and how to build attraction with a friend is through great touch.

Making Your Move

Eventually, you’re going to have to man up and make your move. It’s not talking about how you want to have a relationship with her that’s going to take things to the next level — it’s taking things to the next level.
This can cause a lot of anxiety for men, but remember: You’re already not dating her. Nothing that you do is going to take you further away from where you want to be.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1114 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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