Dating Advice for Men — How to Avoid the Friend Zone

We’ve all been there. The black hole of dating: the friend zone. Getting out is hard, so the best dating advice for men is to not end up there in the first place. Whether you’ve wound up there once or a dozen times, read on to find out how you avoid going there ever again.

Always Be Confident

One way that you end up as a trusted friend rather than a potential lover is by lacking in confidence. You need to project confidence at all times. The good news is that this will fill you with greater amounts of genuine confidence while also keeping you out of the friend zone. All the other dating advice for men in this article will help you to project confidence as well as grow confidence inside yourself.

Don’t Be Afraid to Walk Away

Whether you just want to take a lap when you’re out at the bar or you’re tired of the situation entirely, don’t be afraid to walk away. One of the worst ways you can sell yourself short is by locking too hard onto one girl too soon. When you’re out for the night, take a lap, talk to other women, grab drinks, check back in with your friends, whatever. If a situation with a woman is too much for you, don’t be afraid to walk away entirely. You might be surprised at how fast she chases after you.

Prioritize Your Time

Your time is your most valuable commodity. As Bob Dylan once sang “lost time is not found again.” So if you want to appear confident, you need to start treating your time as the precious commodity that it is. Start by prioritizing your time for work and your career. After that, make time for your passions, interests and hobbies. All the things that you “never have time” for. Only then do you start making time for women and dating. When you place a value on your time, so will she.

Touch Is the Game Changer

Don’t be afraid to touch a woman. You can do it without being the slightest bit “creepy” and it’s really going to start opening doors for you with her. Touching on the upper back, arms and hands is totally socially acceptable and starts creating strong attraction between the two of you. What’s more, you’re implicitly giving her permission to touch you. We’ve seen that totally open the floodgates more times than I can recall out on our Boot Camp field nights. Touch her and your chances of ending up in the friend zone drop to about zero.

Take the Initiative

What do bold, confident men do? Men who aren’t friends, but potential lovers and boyfriends? They take the initiative. Don’t wait for her to talk to you, you go up and talk to her. Don’t wait for her to try and make a date, you go ahead and make one yourself. This is one of the best ways that you can be perceived as a confident man and stay out of the friend zone every time.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1139 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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