If a woman is really digging you she’s going to start giving body language signs that she wants a kiss. But these signs can be pretty subtle, so guys often miss them completely. To help you pick up on these subtle gestures so you don’t miss these opportunities, here are some body language signs she wants to be kissed.
One sign a girl wants to be kissed that isn’t often talked about is flared nostrils. This response means she’s taking in extra air in preparation to do something physical, and comes as a result of feeling excited/aroused. So unless you are making her so mad she wants to slap you, when you see this sign it may very well mean she’s thinking about kissing you. (This tip was taken from What Every Body is Saying by body language expert Joe Navarro).
Now this signal may not mean much on its own. After all there could be other reasons for her nose to flair out. So when looking for signs she wants a kiss keep in mind that it’s important to look for clusters of body language signals. Seeing her nose flair once may not tell you much. But if you see it happen around the same time as some of the other body language signals mentioned below, then that will be a much stronger sign she wants a kiss.
When people like and enjoy what they are seeing their eyes will get wider and their pupils will dilate. So if you see her eyes are getting bigger and bigger as your interaction continues, it may very well mean she’s feeling more and more interested in and connected to you. And if she is holding strong eye contact with you at the same time, then that signal becomes that much stronger.
Of course there is a much more obvious eye signal to look for as well – “bedroom eyes”. That’s the eye gaze that suggests she’s thinking about getting physical right then and there. You don’t need to worry about “how to spot” bedroom eyes because if she gives you that look, you’ll feel it. Just be sure to step-up in these situations and make a move. If you wait for her to do something first, you’ll likely be waiting for a long time.
Touch is one of the most heavily used signs a woman wants to be kissed, so if she’s interested in you there’s a good chance she’ll find some excuse to touch you. And the more a girl touches you the safer it is to assume she’s interested. This is especially true if her touch becomes more and more frequent, and if you notice she touches you far more than she touches anyone else.
If you want to see this sign of attraction you may have to break the touch barrier first. Touch her with light, playful taps so you each get comfortable with physical contact. That will open the door for her to respond by showing her interest through touch as well. (For more on building sexual tension through touch check out the “Touch” episode in the Art of Charm toolbox here)
If a woman is thinking about kissing you then she may start to become preoccupied with lips. She may start licking or rubbing her own lips – or her eyes will more-than-occasionally dart down to look at yours.
Of course, just because a woman is licking her lips doesn’t necessarily mean she’s interested in being kissed. For her it could simply be a self-soothing gesture, nervous habit, or compulsion of some kind. So before making any assumptions form the body language signs you read take time to get a feel for the woman’s baseline body language behaviors. See how she tends to act and once you have a feel for her basic habits, you can look at how she deviates from them to get a read on how she is feeling.
Open body language
You can see signs she wants to kiss from how she positions herself. If she is facing you with open body language – her face, chest, and even feet are facing you, her arms are by her sides (and not crossed as a “barrier” between you) – then she is sending strong signs of interest. Also, if you notice she is comfortable standing close to you (so close that you are sharing the same personal space) when she doesn’t have to be that close (maybe the bar isn’t very crowded), then it’s a very strong sign she is interested and would welcome a kiss.
If you are not sure whether or not a girl is close enough to be in your “personal space” think of it this way: If it was a guy who was standing that close to you, would it feel awkward? Like you would want to take a step back? If so, then she’s in your personal space. And that’s a great sign because she wouldn’t be there if she didn’t enjoy the feeling of being close to you.
While the body language signs she wants to be kissed are important, there are going to be other signs to look at as well. For example, pay attention to how the girl communicates with you. Is she taking it on herself to keep the interaction going forward by asking you questions? Are her questions geared toward getting to know you on a deeper, more personal level? Is she laughing at jokes and comments you make that aren’t even funny? These can all be signs that the girl is interested in you and she may be looking for a kiss soon – if not already.
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Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.
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