What is Her Body Language Trying to Tell

Reading body language gets you inside information into how a woman is feeling.  And this is information can be incredibly useful during the course of the conversation.  It can tell you for example, whether she’s interested and you should move things forward, or she’s disinterested and you should slow things down.  For a basic understanding of how to read a woman’s body language so you can catch these cues, check out the tips below.

Where is she facing?

A great way to tell how interested a woman is in you is to take a look at where her body is facing.  If her head, chest, and feet are all pointing in your direction then it is clear you have got her full interest and attention.  On the other hand the more her body is positioned away from you (for example if she is talking to you over her shoulder) the less interested and engaged she is in the conversation.

A similar signal to look for when reading body language is to look at how a woman crosses her legs when sitting.  If she crosses her legs away from you so that one leg is put up almost as a barrier between you, it’s a sign she’s feeling more distant.  If she crosses her legs towards you however, it signals that she is both comfortable with you and engaged in the conversation.

Dilated pupils

One thing you want to pay attention to when reading body language is the state of a woman’s pupils.  Unlike other parts of her body she cannot control how her pupils appear.  So this is a great way to get unfiltered insight into show she is feeling.

When we enjoy the experience we are having our pupils will expand in order to take more of it in.  So if during the course of a conversation you notice the woman’s pupils are getting wider and wider take that as a great sign she’s enjoying you/the conversation.

Of course there could be outside causes for this change as well.  If you move from someplace bright to someplace dark then her pupils will dilate to take in more light.  So make sure you take environmental factors into account when reading body language signs like this.

Eye blocking

While a woman’s eyes will dilate when she’s enjoying herself, if she’s unhappy with what’s going on she may start “eye blocking”.  This can be anything from a long blink, to rubbing her eyes, to covering her eyes completely with her hands. Eye blocking is a sign she does not like what she is seeing and wants to cut herself off from what is happening around her.

How is she positioned?

When reading body language one of the easiest ways to tell if a girl is interested is to see how she positions herself.  Is she leaning towards you, or away from you?  Is she standing so close she’s in your “personal space” – or does she keep distance between you?  The more you find her leaning in and standing in your personal space the more comfortable she feels with you.  And the more likely it is that she is interested and attracted to you.

If you want to gauge how interested a girl is in you then you can run this little test to find out:  Take a step in to get close to her and see how she reacts.  If she steps away you know she is not quite comfortable being that intimate yet.  If she stays there then she is far more comfortable and it is more likely she is interested in you.

Then, after a few moments take a step back and see how she responds.  If she steps towards you and gets into your personal space (either immediately or later on that night) take that as a sign she is attracted to you.

Touching

If you are looking for signals a girl is interested in you one of the best signs to look for when reading body language is touch.  The more a girl touches you the more she’s flirting and looking for your attention.  And the more intimate the touch, the more interest she is showing.  For example a girl tapping you on the shoulder with the back of her hand isn’t showing as much interest as a girl planting the palm of her hand on your chest.

Of course there is always the chance that she is just the “touchy” type of girl.  So when reading this body language sign of attraction be sure to note how the way she touches you compares to the way she touches everyone else.  If she is touching you much more and in more intimate areas than anyone else you can be sure it’s a clear sign of attraction.

Preening

When a girl is hoping to look good and make a good impression she will often start preening.  She will subtly adjust her hair, clothes, jewelry, or whatever else in order to make her look more attractive.  This is often done subconsciously, and the more you see it the more you can be sure she’s hoping to make a good impression.

Preening is an especially great indicator of interest when the girl starts preening you.  If she adjusts your tie, fixes your hair, or anything like that it shows a high level of comfort and is potentially a huge sign of attraction.

Your body language matters

Reading body language is something people do all the time, whether they are conscious of it or not.  That means women are constantly reading your body language and making their own conclusions about you based on how you carry yourself.  To make sure your body language is on point so you can make a great impression anytime you meet a woman, click here.

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.

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