Guys often stress out trying to find the perfect opening line to say to a girl. But if you know how to attract women without talking, then all that pressure to figure out what to say to the girl disappears. It becomes much easier to relax and start a conversation with the woman because you already know the woman is interested. So if you’d like to take the pressure off of meeting women and learn how to attract women without talking, check out the attraction tips for men below.
Attract women with eye contact
The most important part of attracting women without talking is making quality eye contact with women. When you find yourself making eye contact with a woman, hold her gaze and give her a warm smile. Holding eye contact shows women confidence. Smiling shows her that you’re a warm, friendly guy.
Now, maintaining that warm, confident eye contact with women can be difficult if you’re nervous. To ease that anxiety, there are two things you can do: First, when making eye contact with a woman, breathe deep into your belly as this will help you relax. Second, make your eye contact with women warm and inviting by “smiling with your eyes”. You know that feeling you get in your eyes after you laugh really hard? When your gaze is warm, relaxed, and open? That is the feeling you want when looking to attract women with eye contact.
Get women to notice you through social proof
A great way to stand out and get women to notice you is through social proof. Surrounding yourself with women (especially attractive women) proves that you are the type of man women want to be around. Other women in the venue will wonder what it is that makes these women want to be with you. It’ll automatically get women curious about you, interested in you, and maybe even a little jealous that they’re not included. (For more on how to attract women with social proof check out the Art of Charm Podcast with Adam Lyons)
Non-verbal banter with women
Banter is a great way to start a conversation with women. But there’s more to banter than just using banter lines. There are also non-verbal ways to banter with women that will get women interested in you.
For example, if you’ve made eye contact with a woman and want to get things rolling with a little banter, a great thing to do is to simply make funny faces at her. Have some fun and play – stick your tongue out – cross your eyes – make whatever silly face you feel like. It’s a great way to make a girl smile and from there, it will be easy to approach the woman start a conversation with her. (This tip on attracting women was mentioned in the Art of Charm Podcast on Attraction signs women show)
Attracting women with your appearance doesn’t require expensive clothing. All you really need is to show women you’re a guy who has his life together. Leave the sweatpants and flip-flops at home and attract women by going out in clean, wrinkle-free clothes that fit well. A pair of sharp-looking shoes, trim fingernails, and well-managed hair will go a long way in getting women to notice you in a positive way.
Attractive body language
Women can tell a lot about you by your body language alone. If you want to show the confidence that will get women attracted to you, then you want to make sure your body language is on point.
To show the confident body language that attracts women, be sure to stand tall – as if there is a string from the base of your spine pulling you up through the crown of your head. Keep your shoulders back and relaxed, your head up, and smile.
You can further show confidence through body language by avoiding excess movements and fidgeting. When you walk, walk with purpose and direction. Having control over your body language helps you come across as the powerful, confident man women want.
Get women to notice you by making friends
Thus far this article has been all about how to attract women without talking at all. But as Johnny mentioned in the mailbag episode, sometimes getting women to notice you requires a bit of effort. Sitting around and waiting for women to notice you just isn’t as effective as getting up and making yourself noticeable.
How can you make sure women notice you? By being the social, friendly guy who gets along with everyone. When you go out, look to talk with anyone who is around – guys, girls, staff members, etc. Women will notice you getting along with everyone and they’ll become interested in meeting you. Plus, acting this way shows women you’re confident, friendly, and able to handle yourself in social situations – all traits women find attractive in men.
Make women chase you
Making women chase you can be shockingly easy. All you have to do is go out and – no matter what you’re doing or who you’re with – focus on having a damn good time. Keep a smile on your face, have fun and enjoy yourself. It will get women to notice you and excited to join in on the fun.
At AoC bootcamps, the primary objective each night is to “Have fun and fuck shit up”. Embrace that as your number one goal when you go out, and you’ll create a vortex of fun and positivity that will attract women and get women chasing you.
Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.
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