What to Say to a Girl to Get Her Back

If you break up with a girl, getting her back can be one of the hardest things that you do in life. However, if you want to give it a shot, there are some tips on what to say to a girl to get her back, or at least make it easier. The Art of Charm has put together this handy guide to helping you get your ex back, starting today.

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Give Both of You Space

The first thing that you need to do if you want to try and get a girl back is to give her space. This is the type of situation where you want to get her to come back to you. Thus, you don’t want to do anything that can be perceived as you chasing after her. This means giving both of you space to breathe after the breakup. There’s a really good chance that she’s going to miss you just as much as you miss her and that’s what’s going to bring that girl back into your life. But it’s not going to happen if you don’t allow both of you room to breathe.

Let Her Initiate Contact

Sooner or later, it happens that the girl that you broke up with — or even the girl that broke up with you — decides that she needs to initiate contact with you again. This is the time that you’re waiting for. Letting her initiate contact is the best way to do things because it allows her to chase after you. This puts you on a stronger footing when it comes to getting your girl back. If you chase after her, chances are good that all you’re going to do is drive her away.

Take the Time to Build Yourself Up

The best of what to say to a girl to get her back is not to say anything at all. Rather, you want to do things that are going to get her to come back to you. You’re familiar with the term “living well is the best revenge?” Well, improving yourself and becoming a better person in every way possible is the best way to get your ex back in your life. Hit the gym, take some classes, give yourself time for your hobbies and your passions. Believe me, she’s going to hear about it and see the changes that are happening in your life. This is what’s going to make her want to be a part of your life again.

Tell Her How You’ve Been Spending Your Time

After she initiates contact with you, now is the time to say the things that are going to get this girl back in your life. What types of things are those? Mostly how you’ve been spending your time, being productive, bettering yourself and overall being happy. Wallowing in misery is one of the least sexy things in the world. On the other hand, a happy man who is making strides toward being the type of man that he’s always wanted to be? It doesn’t get any better than that.

Don’t be gross about it, but don’t be afraid to mention if you’re dating someone else. First of all, she deserves to know. Second of all, there are fewer things women want more than the things that they can’t have.

Ask Her Out

Of course, any process of getting a girl back into your life is going to end with you asking her out. After the two of you have been talking for a bit, tell her that you’d like to get together sometime. Make it something like a first date so that you two can focus more on excitement than on the past.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1049 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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3 Comments on “What to Say to a Girl to Get Her Back”

  1. My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday and it was like the whole world is gonna crumble I am so sad now and I need her back please help me…I love her so much and I am incomplete without her…I have not been myself since and I am not now please…it is just like my heart is gonna break in two’s

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