How to Make a Girl Like You Over Text

Lots of guys want to know how to make a girl like them over text. If you’re one of them, you’ve come to the right place. Getting a girl interested in you just by texting will be easy if you follow these tips on how to text girls.

The Most Important Thing When Texting Girls

Whether you’re texting a girl you just met or texting a girl you’ve known a while, the most important piece of advice for texting girls is to have fun. Always keep your texts with women playful and lighthearted. Making a girl smile and light up when she sees your message is the key to how to make a girl like you over text.

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How to Make a Girl Smile over Text

As for how to make a girl smile over text, here are some tips and examples of what to text girls that are sure to get the girl to like you.

  • Tease her. Don’t be afraid to poke fun at the girl you’re texting in a playful, good-natured way. Not only does teasing a girl make her laugh, it shows that you’re not a just a suck-up. Teasing alone can show that you have confidence with women and therefore will help build attraction with women. Here’s an example of a fun text to send to a girl that reflects that confident, playful teasing: “you’re a closet dork aren’t you…except without the closet ;)”.
  • Make fun of yourself. A surefire way to get a girl to smile over text is to make fun of yourself (in a tongue-in-cheek kind of way, not through self-deprecation). By making fun of yourself, you get her laughing and show that it’s okay for her to let her guard down. She’ll feel more comfortable with you, which will allow the woman to become more attracted to you.Example: If you’re agreeing with something the girls says, you could respond to her text with something like “Okey dokey little pokey (ya I’m a dork like that..lol)”.
  • Guess her answers. Another way to have fun and keep your texts to girls interesting is to guess her answers. This is a great way to spice up your texts to girls, separate yourself from other guys, and ultimately get the girl interested in you.For example, your text to a girl could read: “What r u up to this weekend? Let me guess…taking a speed knitting class so you can make me a scarf! You are sooo sweet :)”
  • Role play. The same banter techniques that work in meeting and attracting women also work great over text. Whether it’s pretending to be a husband and wife headed toward divorce, a rock star and his groupie – or anything else you can think of – bantering with girls through made-up role play is great. It provides a fun way to create a shared experience that will make the girl smile and get her feeling more connected to you.One example of how to banter with women through text is to pretend she’s a stalker and you’re her victim. Using this banter example you might text a girl something like: “Did I just catch you spying on me as I was changing into my gym clothes my little stalker?!”

Make Her Chase You

Women want a man who provides a challenge and are turned off by men who make things too easy. So when you’re texting a girl, get her chasing you by giving her a bit of a challenge. You can do that by following the two texting tips below:

  • Disqualify yourself. To look more confident with women and avoid coming across as needy, playfully disqualify yourself from her dating pool. That is, joke about how the two of you would never be right for each other. You could, for instance, text her something like: “Woah woah! You like {thing she likes}? I didn’t know you were that “type” of girl! I might have to get my mom’s permission just to kick it with you… lol :)”. By playfully pushing away like this, you create that space for the girl to chase you.
  • Do not overtext. This is a big one as too much texting can destroy attraction with women. As a general rule, whoever is putting the most effort into the communication is the one doing the chasing. So if you want to have any shot of getting a girl to chase you, then you must not over-text. Instead, look to keep the text ratio close to 1:1 and text the girl about as frequently as she texts you.

Make a Girl Feel Special over Text

Another trick for how to make a girl like you over text is to stroke her ego. Let her know that she’s made a positive impact on you and that she’s still on your mind. An example of this would be, “I just saw the cutest little squirrel in the park gathering nuts and it made me think of you :)” A text like that is going to make a girl feel special – and making a girl feel good like that is a surefire way to get the girl to like you.

(For more tips on how to text girls, be sure to check out the The Art of Charm podcast episode on Text Game)

Brian M - author of 192 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.

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