Tips To Get Men More Dates Now

get more datesSo many dating tips for men who are looking to meet more women revolve around how to meet women at bars and clubs.  For some guys that’s the ideal place to meet women.  Girls are dressed up, look great, and go to these places because they want to have fun and may even be actively looking to meet a guy.  However, if you’re relying on bars and clubs to meet women it means you’re meeting “bar and club” type of women.  Also it can mean you’re stuck waiting until Friday/Saturday night rolls around for another opportunity to meet someone.  If you want a tip on getting more dates, try expanding your reach.

To really increase your chances of meeting women and going on more dates you’ve got to take advantage of the opportunities you come across every day.  There are beautiful, single women everywhere throughout the day.  They’re in coffee shops, at the gym/ yoga class, bookstores, grocery stores, or just walking down the street.  Meeting women does not need to be confined to a few instances – in clubs, at work, through mutual friends – you can take control and meet women in any situation.  Most women are bored during the day and would love for somebody to come along, shake things up, and make their day.  Keep in mind that great line from Hitch: “No woman wakes up saying ‘God, I hope I don’t get swept off my today!”

In bars and clubs women can be more defensive.  Most guys that have approached them have done a horrible job, so naturally they may be a bit hesitant.  Any guy that approaches has to show he’s not just like all the other assholes that have tried to sleep with her.  During the daytime you don’t have that problem.  Not many guys have the balls to approach a girl in a coffee shop or on the street, so there are no stereotypes/bad experiences to compete against.  You can sit down with a girl and start chatting with her and she’ll be more open and receptive because unlike at the bar, she has not had a handful of negative experiences in this type of situation.

If this type of cold approaching is overwhelming then here’s another tip for meeting women you’d want to date. is a great reference to find fun activities in your town and meet up with like-minded people.  If you go and find there are no attractive women you’re interested in, keep in mind all is not lost.  Befriend the people there and build your social network.  You never know, maybe somebody there has a cute, single friend they’ll want to introduce you to.  It also helps to be the cool guy who knows everybody so when a new girl shows up, you can be the guy to make her feel comfortable and introduce her to everyone.

Another great tip for men who want to find datable women is to join groups and classes that you find interesting.  Take a cooking class, a dance class, an improv class or maybe an art class.  You may even want to think about volunteering a few hours a week for a cause you care about (I walk dogs for the humane society and have gone out with a few women I’ve met there.  It wasn’t the reason I joined, but it was a nice bonus).  These are great places to meet women and have the added benefit of helping you become a more interesting person who gets more enjoyment out of life.  When you become a more active, positive person it becomes even easier to meet women because that’s the type of guy women seek.

By partaking in more social activities and learning how to capitalize on the beautiful women that cross your path on a daily basis you’ll be able to take advantage of the abundance of women that are out there hoping to meet a great guy.  The possibilities and opportunities are endless.  If you’re reading this and thinking you can’t meet women this way, that’s a sign that you just need a bit of practice and to spend some time in an environment learning that it can be done.  This is why we provide week long bootcamps where you can get experience and live-coaching that will help you break through those doubts and give you the confidence and tools to meet women anywhere.

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.


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One Comment on “Tips To Get Men More Dates Now”

  1. I agree that building a social network really helps with dating life and dance classes are definitely a great way to meet women. However, being in dance classes for half a year now, this is something I need to stress. They emphasize safety and comfort over anything else and the last thing they want to deal with are guys hitting on girls. That is to say you can’t, but you need to be careful with asking someone out because if they say no, it can look bad on you even if you take it gracefully.

    All in all, just be friendly to all the girls you meet in dance class or social events, but choose carefully who you ask out.

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