Social Dating: A New Approach

Social Network - vector illustrationAre you looking to get more out of social dating? You’re not alone. In fact, one of the most common questions that we get here at The Art of Charm is how to get the most out of the new world of social dating. Whether it’s starting a new online dating profile or using social networks to the fullest, The Art of Charm is here to support you with the advice that you need to hit it out of the park with social dating — without gimmicks, tricks or gambits.

Crafting a Solid Profile

Whether you’re using a social network like Facebook or more targeted online dating service like OK Cupid, The Art of Charm thinks that social dating always begins with making the right profile. What does the right profile look like?

  • Good Pictures: A good picture for social dating isn’t just one where you look good — though that helps. Better than that is pictures where you look like you’re having a killer time with a bunch of people. Looking fun and social is going to make you more attractive.

  • Filtering Out: Your profile should include at least one or two things that are dealbreakers for you. Why? First of all, it narrows the number of women who are going to contact you to ones that you’ll actually date. It also shows that you’re a man who is selective, that you’re not going to date just anyone.

  • Filtering In: At the same time, you also want to have signs on there about what you are looking for. This isn’t just to signal that you want to be social; It’s also about signalling to women that you’re potentially going to be interested in to come on in.

Especially when you’re using dating websites to socialize, having the right profile is the first step toward getting your next date interested. Check out this article about building a great social network profile for dating. But what about social networks?

Optimal Use of Social Media

One of the best ways to use social networking for dating is to showcase yourself as a fun, upbeat guy who is always out there having a great time. Pictures of yourself at parties is killer, especially when you’re with a bunch of your dudes having a great time and it’s easy to see. Posting stuff like that, with light jokes and memes is going to generate a lot more interest than being super serious or — even worse — complaining about your life. Keep it positive in public and save the negative venting for friends who can hang.

Don’t forget to look for red flags on her dating profile!

Getting the Date

Of course, the thing to remember at all times is that you want this to lead toward you getting and going on a date. Flirt and banter, but leave getting to know you type conversation for when the two of you are actually together. Get her to agree to go on a date with you. That’s what this is all about.

After you’ve gone on the date, check out this article we wrote with advice for the first date. Shoot us an email to let us know how it went.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1124 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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