Where are all the Single Ladies?

Looking for places to meet single women?  You won’t have to look far, because there are tons of great places to meet girls all around you.  To learn where these places are and why they’re so great for meeting women, read on.

Online Dating

One of the best places to meet single women is through online dating.  There are more women signing up for online dating each day, and every one of them is actively looking for a fun, high-quality guy.

To show women you’re the guy they’re looking for make your profile as fun and engaging as possible.  How do you do that?  For starters make sure you’re in the right state of mind when you sit down to create your profile.  If you’re feeling lonely, insecure, depressed, or anything like that, those negative emotions will influence the way you write.  Women will get that negative “vibe” and will move on to the next guy.  So if you’re feeling down go out and get some exercise, then take a pass at creating your profile when you’re feeling refreshed and energized.  By putting yourself in a positive state of mind you’ll automatically create a more fun, engaging profile.

As for what to put in your profile, be sure you describe the exact type of girl you’re looking for (none of this “any girl will do” nonsense).  Is this going to filter women out?  Yes.  But that’s the point.  By actively filtering women you show that you’re a high-value guy with standards.  This is going to make you more desirable for any woman who reads your profile.  It’s also going to prevent you from wasting time with the wrong girls.

Meetup.com

While you’re online another site you should check out when looking for places to meet single women is meetup.com.  This is a fun, easy place to meet women because everyone who goes to meetups does so specifically to branch out, meet new people, and have fun.

If you check out this site you’ll likely find events (happy hours, game nights, etc.) just for singles in your age range.  But if nothing like that is going on, don’t worry.  There are plenty of activity groups (hiking, going to sporting events, book clubs…) that will prove great places to meet single women.  What makes these activity groups are so fantastic is they give you a chance to meet girls who have similar interests as you.

Local classes

Another place to meet single women who have similar interests as you is through local classes.  Anything from a dance class to a cooking, art, or improv class can be a fantastic place to meet single women.  Why?  Because meeting girls in this environment gives you a shared experience to bond over.  Plus, you’re in a space where everyone is messing up, and that vulnerability will have everyone feeling close and connected very quickly.  This feeling of connection and bonding is going to go a long way in getting that cute, single girl interested in getting together after class.

Speed dating

Speed dating is your opportunity to meet tons of single women in one evening.  You’re likely to find a wide variety of women there, so odds are you’ll find someone that sparks your interest.

The thing about speed dating is a lot of people find it awkward or uncomfortable.  And that is exactly why it is such a great place to meet single women.  If you can be the guy who helps women let go of that awkwardness, relax, and have fun, then they’ll be lining up to get your number.

To make sure you’re that guy the only intention you want to have when speed dating is to have fun.  Don’t worry about getting numbers or impressing anyone.  Just see it as an excuse to meet cool people and do something different with your night.  Make a point to chat with everyone – both girls and guys – before the event even starts.  This way people will see you as the fun, confident guy who got everyone to loosen up and have a good time.

Bars and clubs

Of course no article on places to meet single women would be complete without mentioning bars and clubs.  These are the places most people tend to look towards when they’re single and want to meet someone.  So you’ll have ample opportunity to meet girls simply by heading to bars and clubs on the weekends.

To get the most out of these nights out be sure to show up early to whatever venue you’re going to.  This gives you a chance to get acclimated and comfortable in the environment.  While you’re there, warm up your social muscles by chatting with the staff and anyone else who’s around.  As the venue fills up look for a “high-traffic” area – someplace people walk past frequently – and post up there with your friends.  That way instead of running around looking for girls to talk to, the girls will wind up walking right by you.

All over town

Don’t limit yourself to thinking you need to be at specific places to meet single women.  The fact is there are single girls all around you that you can meet anytime you want.  All you’ve got to do is walk up and get a conversation started.

To do this you don’t need some super-clever “pickup” line.  You can just be completely honest and genuine.  An opening line like “Hi, you’re cute, my name is ____” is often all you need to get a conversation up and running.  Women appreciate this kind of authenticity, and will often be interested to see where things might go.

More places to meet single women

There’s yet another place that’s great for meeting attractive single women – the gym.  To learn how you can meet women next time you’re working out, check out this article on how to meet girl at the gym.

 

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.

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