Minisode Monday #70 | How to Control Emotional Feedback with CIRCA

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away.

When something goes wrong in our lives, sometimes we fixate on its emotional impact — how it makes us feel in the moment — rather than what difference it will make in the long run (which may be minimal).

Tinker Dabble Doodle Try: Unlock the Power of the Unfocused Mind author Dr. Srini Pillay shows us how to control this emotional feedback with the CIRCA mnemonic. Make sure to check out his entire episode: The Power of the Unfocused Mind, and his other Minisode Monday:  Dabbling: Not Just for Dilettantes!

Let’s get to it!

The Cheat Sheet:

  • When something goes wrong in your life, ask yourself: is this important, or just traumatic?
  • We can gauge this by using the CIRCA mnemonic.
  • C: Chunking. Break down the problem into its component parts; solve it over a period of time.
  • I: Ignore mental chatter. Observe your thoughts; don’t become your thoughts.
  • R: Reality check. Remind yourself that “this too shall pass.”
  • C: Control check. Is the problem something you actually have a hand in, or is it something like weather or politics?
  • A: Attention shift. Move your attention from the problem (the past) to the solution (the future).
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Jordan Harbinger has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped -- twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients.


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