Minisode Monday #60 | Hacking Motivation with Value Languages

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable — to make you more magnetic and effective — that you can implement right away.

Vanessa Van Edwards (check out our full episode with her here) rejoins us to talk about value languages — the motivations we have for entering into relationships with each other.

Let’s get to it!

The Cheat Sheet:

  • Ever wondered how to hack motivation? It begins by understanding what people really want out of a relationship.
  • If you think about it, all relationships are transactions in which we give and take resources.
  • Value languages are what we hope to get out of a relationship; they can be any of the following:
    1. Information
    2. Goods
    3. Status
    4. Service
    5. Love
    6. Money
  • Vanessa gives us ways to practice how to recognize what value languages are being used in our own relationships so we can best address the motivations behind them.
  • This week, take a look at brags and complaints when you hear them and try to match them up with these different value languages.
  • If you liked this one, make sure to check out Vanessa’s most recent appearance on The Art of Charm: Captivate (Episode 610)
  • To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470.
  • Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here!
  • Let us know about how you put today’s Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: [email protected] (he actually reads everything)!


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Jordan Harbinger - author of 952 posts on The Art of Charm

Jordan Harbinger has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped -- twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients.


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