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Need something to say to a girl you just met? Well this article will do you one better. Not only will it show you how to talk to a girl you just met. It will show you how to talk to the girl in a way that will get her attracted to you.

Step 1: Mastering Banter – The Key to Engaging Conversations with Women

Bantering helps ease the tension that comes along with meeting someone. Remember, she’s nervous, too. Get a girl to smile, relax, and have fun early in the conversation. That will get her interested in you and in carrying the conversation further.

Now, the first step in how to banter with a girl successfully is to get the right mindset. You want to be like a fun, carefree kid who is just looking to have a good time. Getting the girl to smile really just becomes a side-effect of your own playful self-amusement.

As for what to say to a girl using banter, the possibilities are endless. You could, for instance, start to banter with a girl through role-play. Pretending, for example, that your husband and wife heading toward a divorce (“That’s it, we’re breaking up. I want half my stuff back – thank God for prenups…”).

Another fun way to banter with a girl is to flip the script. Pretend that she is hitting on you, “Excuse me, my eyes are up here, missy”. Women are used to being chased by men. So when you flip the script it shows you are the one worth chasing.

Step 2: The Art of Qualification – Making Her Pursue You

Now she is relaxed, comfortable, and interested in you. The next step is to get her to qualify herself. Qualification allows you to signal your interest and make you more attractive to her. Women want a man with standards. Qualifying shows a girl she needs to be more than just a pretty face to hold your attention.

To get a girl to qualify herself, prompt her with a question that will get her talking about herself. In a pleasant tone ask a question like, what’s your deal? An open-ended question like that is a great question to ask a girl. It allows her to share with you whatever information she feels comfortable sharing.

Looking for other good questions to ask a girl you just met? Try, “So what kind of things do you do for fun?” or, “What adventures have you been up to lately?” If you’re meeting a girl in the daytime or in a low-key environment, simply ask, “So what do you have going on the rest of the day?” It’s a perfectly good question to ask a girl that will get her to open to you.

Step 3: Deepening Connections – How to Build Rapport with Women

Banter and qualification are great for getting a girl attracted to you initially. But if you want that attraction with a woman to last you need to build rapport. Building rapport with a woman just means creating an emotional connection – and having that emotional connection will make women attracted to you on a deeper level.

To build that deep attraction with women, here’s a simple formula that will help you create rapport with a girl you just met:

First, ask the girl an open-ended question that gets her to share her emotions with you. You could either build off the open-ended question you asked the girl in the qualification stage, or ask a girl a different question. For instance, you could ask “so what is it about this bar that you like?” or “what does this song remind you of?” (assuming there’s a song playing in the background). Listen to her answer (really, listen!) and then share your own perspective and feelings on the subject with her. Accepting her feelings and emotions and then relating them to your own is how you build that deep connection and strong attraction with women.

Step 4: Sparking Desire – Techniques for Building Sexual Tension

The big key to building sexual tension with a woman is to touch her. Start with light, playful taps at the beginning of the interaction, and gradually touch her more and for longer periods of time.

Aside from touch, another important factor in building sexual attraction with women is to be open and honest with your interest in her. It’s no secret women want confident men, and saying exactly what you’re feeling without holding back is a great way to show that confidence with women.

Need to build that sexual tension and get a woman turned on with your confidence? Verbally express your interest in the woman. If you’re in a sexually charged environment like a club, just come out and say, “You’re turning me on right now”. Are you meeting a girl in the daytime – or someplace where the sexual energy isn’t as potent? Try something like “I dig you, let’s go get coffee together” works great. Really, whatever it is you’re feeling at the moment is exactly what you should say to the woman.

Once you get her number and set a date, use our texting tips to get her in the mood (or amplify her interest in you) before you see her.

Continuing the Conversation: What to Say Next to a Girl

Go through these steps and still find yourself searching for something to say to a girl you just met? Jump around the various stages once again in whatever order suits you (excluding qualification). That interchange between banter, sexual escalation, and rapport building will keep the conversation fun and interesting.

Want to Effortlessly Attract the Girls You Want to Date?

Let’s face it, you’re killing it in your career, but when it comes to charming the socks off a stunning woman, do you feel like you’re just winging it? Imagine this: you walk up to her, hearts racing, palms a bit sweaty, but this time, you’re armed with more than just good looks and ambition.

What if I told you that with the right tweaks to what you’re already doing, you’ll tap into your natural charm? No more awkward silences or cringey small talk. We’re talking electrifying conversations that spark a real connection, making her eyes light up with excitement.

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