Online Dating Flirting Tips

Online dating and flirting is here and it presents all new challenges for men. For example, you might have a hard enough time flirting in real life, let alone online. Fortunately, The Art of Charm has done a lot of work on the subject of online dating and flirting. Hang tight while we take you through the basics of how you make flirting online work for you.

Reference Something in Her Profile

This is where it all starts: You introduce yourself. You want to be light and playful from the word “go,” but you also want her to know that you read her profile. More importantly, you want her to know that you’re interested in who she is — that you’re not just shotgunning every girl on the site. So throw in a quick and cheeky reference to something in her profile. It’s a great way to let her know that you’re actually interested and also to start creating a bond almost immediately.

Use Emoticons

We get it: A lot of guys don’t really like emoticons. Still, using them is a great way to communicate with her that you’re playful and fun. It’s how you keep things light, how you let her know that you’re kidding around. Go one step further and get a solid bench of emojis that you like to use. You don’t have to overdo it here: Just a couple or a few thrown in here and there is going to go a long way toward communicating the playful mood you want to cultivate when you’re flirting with a girl online.

Move the Conversation from the Dating Website to Social Media

You need to move the conversation from the dating site to social media as quickly as possible. Why? Because her social network profile is going to tell you a lot more about who she really is than self-reported data on a dating site. You can see what kinds of things she posts, what kind of people she’s friends with and whether or not she, on average, is displaying high-value behaviors or low-value behaviors. These are all things that are a lot harder to suss out when you’re dealing with people on a dating site where they’re generally putting their “best foot forward.”

Close for the Date

Of course, the whole point of online dating and flirting is to get a date. You generally just want to play, flirt and banter when you’re online, saving the more “meaty” conversations for when the two of you are together. This is because most of communication isn’t about the words you use — it’s equally about your body language and tone of voice. While you can try to recapture some of what gets lost with emoticons, you’re still going to lose something in translation.

After the two of you have been flirting and bantering a bit, you want to pivot and tell her that the two of you should get together some time. Suggest something in public that’s a shared activity the two of you have in common.

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