How to Meet Women Online without Using Dating Sites
It’s not that you’re opposed to meeting women online. It’s just that you’re not really that into the idea of dating sites. Before we get into the meat of the topic, we should tell you that skipping out on online dating is one of the biggest mistakes a man can make. However, we get that it’s maybe not for everyone. So what’s the best way to start a conversation with a girl online without using online dating sites?
Online Dating Apps
We’re talking here about stuff like Tinder. It’s not really an online dating site. Rather, it’s an app that you can use to find women in your area that you might be interested in dating. We have a whole report on the best way to use Tinder, but it all comes down to putting your best foot forward and only going after women that you’d actually want to date. There are other similar apps out there and you can look for this weekend’s date while you ride the bus home from work.
You’ve got friends, right? Well, that means that every time you log in to a social networking site like Facebook, you’re going to have friends recommended to you. Why not hit one of them up? You can start the conversation just like you would at a bar or a club. Stick to flirting and leave getting to know you type conversation for when the two of you are together. Once you’ve established some rapport, suggest that the two of you get together some time to hang out.
Online Groups and Forums
One of the greatest ways to meet other people is through shared interests. And, one of the greatest things about the Internet is that it makes it easier than ever to meet people who share your interests. Sign up for forums and groups on Facebook where you can meet people who share your passions. Granted, if your passion is repairing old cars you’re going to have a harder time meeting women in that field. However, using the Internet to find them expands the potential field of women into the tens or hundreds of thousands. You’re going to want to open a conversation in the same kind of flirty, outgoing way that you would at a bar or club. Then offer to get together, hopefully to engage in something related to the subject you have a shared interest on.
Meetups can be a great thing, because you find them online, but you’re going to actually meet women in real life. This means that you don’t have to spend time flirting and bantering online — you can skip to doing that in real life. Meetups are online dating that cuts out the middle man, going directly to the part where the two of you are getting to know each other up close and in person. What’s more, because they often center around some kind of shared interest, they allow you to meet women that you already have something in common with. There are also singles groups that throw you more into the deep end. But for guys who don’t like bars and clubs, this can be a great way to start meeting women.
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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.
Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.
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