Establishing Rapport with Your Girlfriend’s Friends
When you’re dating, there comes a time when you have to meet your girlfriend’s friends. This can be one of the hardest parts of a relationship. You wouldn’t be the first man to fumble when meeting your girlfriend’s friends. That’s why it’s so important for you to read this article. Getting your girlfriend’s friends to like you and establishing rapport with them aren’t impossible, but you do need to pay attention to a few things that make it different from just hanging out with the guys.
Smile, Smile, Smile
It’s always important to smile in social settings. A smile makes other feel at ease, while also giving you the appearance of a confident and carefree man. Having this kind of relaxed confidence is essential when meeting and establishing rapport with your girlfriend’s friends. You need to communicate interest to them. You need to let them know that you’re friendly and that you want them to like you. A smile is a simple but effective way to do that.
Don’t Do Anything Flirty
We’re not just saying that you need to avoid flirting with them. That much ought to be obvious. However, you also need to avoid doing anything that even looks like it might be flirtatious. First of all, your girlfriend is watching and you don’t want her getting the impression that you might fancy one of her friends more. Second, you don’t want your girlfriend’s friends thinking that you have a wandering eye.
Avoid Controversial Topics
Religions, politics and sex are generally the three things it’s good to steer clear of, at least when you’re meeting someone for the first time. Anything controversial is just a recipe for argument. You might get into that later, but for your first meeting, stick to less volatile topics. No matter who you’re meeting for the first time, it’s far better to speak in pleasantries than in topics that are prone to cause disagreement and strife.
Never Discuss Your Ex
If you must — i.e. if you are directly asked — it’s a good thing to talk about your ex in vague but positive terms. If someone asks why you two broke up, simply say that you two grew apart and leave it at that.
Bad mouthing your ex is just going to make you look like a less than great guy. The truth is, even if her friends ask about your ex, they’re less interested in her than what you have to say about her says about you. If you have nothing bad to say and speak in cordial generalities it’s just fine and probably the best way that you can go; After all, it’s none of their business what happened anyway.
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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.
Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.
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