A woman’s body language will tell you everything you need to know about how she is feeling. To help you read these non-verbal signals, here are some body language examples that will provide insight into how a woman feels when she’s around you.
Positive body language: Signs you make a woman happy
When we are in a good mood our body language becomes lighter and more energized. We perform what body language expert Joe Navarro calls “gravity-defying” gestures (FYI most of the tips on reading body language in this article were taken from his awesome book What Every Body is Saying).
Gravity-defying gestures can be seen in multiple parts of the body. For instance, one common body language example of a gravity-defying gesture is the eyebrow flash. If a girl is excited her eyebrows will automatically shoot up for a brief instant (you often see this when someone is surprised/happy to see you).
Another gravity-defying body language signal a woman might give off that displays a positive mood is “happy feet”. If you get a girl happy or excited, you may notice her toes point up (perhaps while rocking back and forth on her heels), her feet will bounce/wiggle, she’ll have a spring in her step, or she’ll rock up and down on the balls of her feet. All these body language examples can be associated with a woman who feels lively and in a positive mood.
Body language signs a woman feels comfortable with you
When people are uncomfortable they often develop a “freeze” response. That is, they will move as little as possible in an attempt to avoid detection. So to see if a woman is comfortable with you, look for body language signals of that freeze response.
One area where you might see a girl freeze as a result of discomfort is her arms. If a girl feels uncomfortable her arms will be tense and close to her body. On the flip side, if she’s relaxed her body language will signal that comfort and she’ll move her arms more. She’ll use her hands more and more as she talks and her arms will swing freely at her sides when she walks around the room.
Similar body language examples of comfort and the freeze response can be seen just about anywhere in the body. For instance, if a woman always keeps her head straight and never crosses her legs it can be a sign the woman feels tension and discomfort. When a woman feels comfortable however, she will occasionally assume more relaxed and vulnerable positions during the interaction by tilting her head to the side or crossing her legs (when sitting or standing). Body language signals like these show a woman who is relaxed and at ease.
(Bonus tip: if you’re sitting next to a girl and she crosses her legs toward you, it’s a sign she’s interested in you and engaged in the interaction. If she crosses her legs away, she’s putting up a barrier and isn’t quite comfortable with you yet.)
Body language signs that a girl is interested
Women will sometimes feign interest in a man for the sake of being polite. But you can tell if a girl is genuinely interested in you simply by looking at her body language.
The more engaged a woman is the more attention you’ll get from her body. What you want to look for then, is that her head, torso, and feet are all facing you. All of that together is a powerful signal she likes you/the conversation you’re having. However if her head and torso are facing you but one or both feet are pointed elsewhere, that body language is a sign she’s not fully engaged. (To learn more about body language and attraction, check out the Pickup Podcast toolbox episode on how to attract women with body language)
Another body language sign that can be used to gauge how interested she is in you is flared nostrils. When a person flairs their nostrils, it shows they are excited, physiologically aroused, and are preparing for something physical. In the right context flared nostrils may be a signal that she is ready and willing to get physical with you and is a sign she wants to be kissed.
How to tell if a girl is nervous
Body language that shows a girl is nervous can be a great thing to see. After all, if a girl is nervous it can be a sign she likes you and wants to make a good impression. It also gives you a chance to help her calm those nerves – which is a surefire way to get a girl to like you and want to be around you more often.
Some of the most common body language signals women give off when they feel nervous are pacifying behaviors. These are self-soothing behaviors that make her feel more at ease. A few examples are: playing with something in her hands, stroking/touching her neck or face, playing with a necklace, rubbing her thighs… pretty much any form of lightly touching/caressing herself can be a pacifying behavior.
The key to reading pacifying behaviors – and to reading body language examples in general – is to not just look for one signal, but multiple signals that show the same thing. That way you are less likely to misinterpret the body language signals women give off. (For more information on how to read a woman’s body language effectively, check out Pickup Podcast interview with body language expert Blake Eastmen)