For most men online dating involves messaging tons of women and rarely (if ever) hearing anything back. But men with the best online dating profiles have a completely different experience. They don’t need to send out tons of messages in order to get women to message them. If you’d like to have that same experience – and wake up to a flood of messages from interested women – be sure to follow these tips on how to create a great online dating profile.
Finding great pictures
A great dating profile starts with great pictures. Ideally you want to use pictures taken with a high-quality camera as it will help you look as attractive as possible. From there you want to use a variety of pictures that show different sides of you. For example, a picture where you’re well-dressed and stoically looking away from the camera is a great for showing women that confident, attractive side. Adding another picture that has you smiling will let women see that you’ve got a warm, friendly side as well.
Of course, the best online profiles don’t just show women what a guy looks like – they show women what his lifestyle is like. Pictures of you having a good time with your friends, traveling, doing the hobbies/activity you enjoy, or even you hanging out with a pet can all be used to attract women to your lifestyle. Silly pictures, like you dressed up for Halloween, are also great additions for showing women that you have a fun life.
How to talk about yourself
The best online dating profiles don’t contain lists of facts and traits that tell women what the guy is like. Instead, the best online dating profiles show women what a guy is like. For example, rather than saying something like “I’m fun” or “I like having fun with friends”, use a sentence or two and briefly describe a recent fun time you had with your friends. Show her what fun looks like. Really paint a picture in her mind and get her to feel the emotion you want to convey. This will make your profile stand out and really stick with her.
How to talk about your job
Most men don’t know how to talk about their work in way that’s interesting to women. But guys with the best online dating profiles are able to make their jobs sound fascinating – no matter what their job might be. Luckily, the trick to making your job sound interesting is a simple one. Rather than talking about what you do, talk about how your work impacts others.
For example, saying “I’m an accountant” and going into details on the day-to-day life of being an accountant isn’t going to be interesting to women. However, saying something like “I help people organize their finances so they can spend more time with their kids” makes that job interesting. It shows you’re more than just a job title, and that you’re a man with a heart who makes a positive impact on those around you.
Keeping a positive tone to your profile
A lot of the men who have online dating profiles give off the impression that they are lonely and desperate. The best online dating profiles however, have a completely different tone. They have a tone that shows a man who has choice in his dating life.
To create this tone you want to take the perspective that there are tons of women out there interested in dating you at this very moment. Online dating isn’t a chance for you to “sell” yourself and convince women to date you; it’s a chance to filter out women until you find the right one. Take this attitude before you sit down and write your profile (or before you send out a message) and it’ll completely change the way you write. You’ll have an easier time thinking of great things to say and you’ll naturally come across as a high-value man who has choice in his dating life.
How to get the girl you want
You can take this even further and even get women chasing you by being specific and calling out exactly what you want in a woman and a relationship. If you want a girl who will go rock climbing every weekend, say that in your profile. If you’re looking for a girl who loves Tim Burton movies, mention it. When you are specific about exactly what you want in a girl and a relationship, then woman who meet that description and will be blown away when reading your profile. (For more on how to find the right girl and weed out the rest, check out this online dating advice article on red flags to look for in a woman’s profile.)
The importance of a good username
Guys who pick boring (or worse, depressing) usernames chase women away instantly. The best online dating profiles however, contain usernames that capture a woman’s interest. So when picking a username be sure to avoid names like “lastchance33” or “lonelyguy47”. Instead, get women interested in you by selecting a name that’s positive and upbeat. Pick something playful and just have fun with it. Try using a nickname you once had or even a phrase or lyric you like. A username can hook a girl instantly, so it’s worth making it a good one.
How to create the best profile
Creating a killer online profile takes time and you may not do it on your first try. It’s a good idea then, to make multiple profiles across multiple sites. That way you can test out different pictures, different descriptions, etc. You may even want to create a fake online dating profile of a female just so you can check out what other guys are putting up in their profiles. By exploring the profiles men put up you’ll get a better sense of what the best online dating profiles look like and how you can improve your own profile.
More tips for online dating
If you want to dive into more detail on how to create the best online dating profile, you’ll definitely want check out the Art of Charm podcast with online dating expert Adam Gilad.
Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.
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