757: The New Rules to Dating

Dating has evolved due to the influence of technology and the way we communicate – but has the evolution been for the good of all, are all these options helping or hindering us, and why is it still just as important to meet face to face instead of trying to connect via text?

What to Listen For

  • How do dating apps remove the fun from dating and what can you do to make dating fun again?
  • How do you create chemistry with someone you’re interested in?
  • What are the three ways you can meet someone you might want to date?
  • How do you decide where to meet new people who are more likely to be compatible with you?
  • What are you doing to sabotage yourself every time you go out to meet new people?
  • How do you become addicted to falling in love and what can you do if you feel you are?
  • What is limerence and how does it prevent you from building healthy relationships?
  • Texting is effective in 2 primary ways, so what are they and why should you avoid using it for other reasons?
  • How can too much texting set you up for failure before meeting up with someone?

The smartphone had a drastic impact on meeting new people and building connections. Texting has become the default form of communication for many, and now you can find new “matches” whenever you have a moment to open an app and glance at some pictures before swiping left or right. But meeting people through apps is just one of three ways you can expand your social circle and improve your dating life, and while texting is convenient, it is still vastly inferior to having a conversation face to face.

This can put many of you in a situation where you’re always searching for that rush of meeting someone new. Unfortunately, when that rush dissipates and you don’t feel invested it can be too easy to simply find a new match, leading to many surface-level interactions instead of genuine long-lasting connections. There’s nothing wrong with surface-level interactions, but if you do want more meaningful connections then it’s important to take the time to get to know people and spend time with them in person.

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Resources from this Episode

Episode 742: The Hidden Power of Relationships

Episode 743: Relationship Goals: Love, Friends & Work

Episode 744: Dating Done Right With Evan Marc Katz

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AJ Harbinger - author of 1139 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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