The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan talk about the four components of a first impression that begin even before the first words are exchanged: static, dynamic, self-presentation, and circumstance. “You can’t become a positive blip on someone’s radar if they can’t see you.” -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: There are four components that go into … Read More

Stories are woven so deeply into our everyday lives that our experiences and the embellishments we (often unintentionally) add to them are usually indistinguishable. Here’s a better way to talk about ourselves that doesn’t obscure the shine of the authentic with the fabrications of the fiction. The Cheat Sheet: Our lives are stories — but are we being honest when … Read More

If we can become more interested in one another’s real intentions, we can become better colleagues, better partners, better parents, better bosses, and better friends. That’s what this toolbox episode is about: How to figure out what people really want — from you, from themselves, and from one another. [Photo by Parker Knight] “Words are deeds.” -Ludwig Wittgenstein The Cheat … Read More

Uncertainty seems an unwelcome visitor, but what happens when we invite it in instead of trying to hide from it? Here’s what we stand to gain by revisiting our relationship with uncertainty. [Photo by Brett Florence] The Cheat Sheet: The brain is wired to consume data. When it knows that there’s more data out there, it throws itself into a cognitive … Read More

Are you resilient? Resilience — true grit — has to last in order to be real. That’s what we’re going to explore in this toolbox: how to build real and lasting grit. [Photo by Lewis Wickes Hine] The Cheat Sheet: The jolt of purpose sometimes masquerades as its more complicated and permanent cousin, grit. Is there a formula for grit? … Read More

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) triumvirate of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan discuss the importance of narrative building — taking ownership of the past, being mindful of the present, and setting sights on what we hope to accomplish in the future. To build rapport with others, we have to know our own story first. [Photo by Jonathan Kos-Read] “If you don’t … Read More

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan goes over the importance of resilience and how we can develop it to be ready for anything life throws our way. [Photo by Art Bromage] The Cheat Sheet: What is resilience and why is it so important? Consider resilience as a bedrock mindset upon which other improvements are built. … Read More

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) has ways of making you talk! If you want to know how to keep a conversation going and avoid the awkward calm that sometimes besets even the most animated of chats, you’ll want to dip into the toolbox for this one. [Image of awkward conversation captured by Kyle Taylor] The Cheat Sheet: The best conversationalists … Read More