Let me know if this sounds recognizable: you sit in the audience, and up on stage is this 6’5” Adonis with immaculate looks, bulking muscles and a 5k suit – telling you that you can do anything if you “just let go of your self-doubts and go after your dreams.” And you sit there, staring at your lap and mumble: … Read More
How to Deal with Crippling Self-Doubts
The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety
Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless … Read More
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How to Build a Friend Circle From Scratch – Part 1
For many years now I’ve been coaching people struggling with low self-esteem and social anxiety that were lacking a good friend circle. AJ and Johnny got word of me through a mutual friend. Long story short, they want me to come to Los Angeles, so I can coach for The Art of Charm. “Sure,” I said. And so I jumped … Read More
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Taking Risks in Life: Saying YES to New Opportunities
In 2018, you may be just one word away from epic adventures: when you start taking risks in life by saying “yes” to new opportunities. Everyone’s seen the meme that answers the question “Why are people afraid of change?” It’s a calculated risk any time we leave our comfort zone. Working on building your social circle and attracting more high-quality … Read More
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How to Develop Social Skills to Attract and Keep High-Value People
It’s never too late to learn new methods to help develop social skills. Today we share some of our favorites. In the last few weeks, we’ve talked about low-value people, value vampires, and today we want to talk about why you should continue to develop social skills. The right skills will help you build a social circle of high-value people. … Read More
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Time Management Training — Our Best Tips and Tricks
Without proper time management training, you’ll have a much harder time doing the things you want to do while still accomplishing all you need to accomplish. In this post, we want to share some of our best tips and tricks for time management training. We know how it is to be so busy you feel like you can’t get everything … Read More
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Seven Surprising Reasons to Be Nice at Work
If you Google “being nice at work,” you’ll find no shortage of articles bemoaning the hidden costs of being kind in your career. “9 Ways Being Nice At Work Is Holding You Back,” warns one article. “11 Ways To Stop Being Too Nice At Work & Start Being Assertive,” offers another. “It’s Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work,” … Read More
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Improve Your Social Health and Increase the Value of Your Social Circle
How can you improve your social health if your social circle needs more high-value members? How can you improve your social health in your current social circle? In our last post we discussed “value vampires,” those people who suck away attention from you and others. These value vampires can hold you back and bring negativity into your space. In this … Read More
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What Are Social Skills? A Value Vampire Has No Clue.
What Are Social Skills? Don’t Let Value Vampires Suck the Goodness out of Your Life. From the “what are social skills” series: understanding value can help you spot value vampires. Are you a value vampire? Or do you let value vampires feed on you? Before you answer that, let’s take a minute to recap the concept of value. We usually … Read More
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Six Rules for a Memorable First Meeting
So you’ve made yourself get out there and go to some networking meetings. Good for you! But are you concerned because you didn’t walk away with a meeting already set up? The good news is you stepped out of your comfort zone and made contacts; the bad news is that you may not know what to do next. How do … Read More
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