When we use the word value it means something very specific to us here at AOC. For us, value is how we derive attention, approval, and acceptance, which humans need to feel good about themselves. You can think of it as oxygen for the human soul. Think about it; ever since the time you were born you have devised … Read More
How to Get Respect by Giving Value
8 Easy Ways to Have Better Conversations
Does the idea of boring small-talk with Uncle Bob or chatting with an attractive person make you tense? If you’re like many people, conversation anticipation will put a few beads of sweat on your forehead. But here’s the good news: While conversation skills are just that–skills to be practiced–some can be implemented swiftly. As a social skills coach we know … Read More
in Building A Connection, Making Friends, Networking
Signs of a Toxic Person and How to Cut Those Toxic People out of Your Life
There’s an old myth that frogs will pull down other frogs trying to escape a pot of boiling water. That’s likely the stuff of folklore, but the dynamic is real: In everyone’s life, there will always be people who will resist, threaten and sabotage the possibility of self-improvement. These are some of the signs of a toxic person. This general … Read More
in Empowerment, Self Mastery
How to Deal with Crippling Self-Doubts
Let me know if this sounds recognizable: you sit in the audience, and up on stage is this 6’5” Adonis with immaculate looks, bulking muscles and a 5k suit – telling you that you can do anything if you “just let go of your self-doubts and go after your dreams.” And you sit there, staring at your lap and mumble: … Read More
in Empowerment
The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety
Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless … Read More
in Art of Personal Development, Empowerment, Self Mastery
How to Build a Friend Circle From Scratch – Part 1
For many years now I’ve been coaching people struggling with low self-esteem and social anxiety that were lacking a good friend circle. AJ and Johnny got word of me through a mutual friend. Long story short, they want me to come to Los Angeles, so I can coach for The Art of Charm. “Sure,” I said. And so I jumped … Read More
in Life Hacks, Making Friends, Networking
Taking Risks in Life: Saying YES to New Opportunities
In 2018, you may be just one word away from epic adventures: when you start taking risks in life by saying “yes” to new opportunities. Everyone’s seen the meme that answers the question “Why are people afraid of change?” It’s a calculated risk any time we leave our comfort zone. Working on building your social circle and attracting more high-quality … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
How to Develop Social Skills to Attract and Keep High-Value People
It’s never too late to learn new methods to help develop social skills. Today we share some of our favorites. In the last few weeks, we’ve talked about low-value people, value vampires, and today we want to talk about why you should continue to develop social skills. The right skills will help you build a social circle of high-value people. … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
Time Management Training — Our Best Tips and Tricks
Without proper time management training, you’ll have a much harder time doing the things you want to do while still accomplishing all you need to accomplish. In this post, we want to share some of our best tips and tricks for time management training. We know how it is to be so busy you feel like you can’t get everything … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
Seven Surprising Reasons to Be Nice at Work
If you Google “being nice at work,” you’ll find no shortage of articles bemoaning the hidden costs of being kind in your career. “9 Ways Being Nice At Work Is Holding You Back,” warns one article. “11 Ways To Stop Being Too Nice At Work & Start Being Assertive,” offers another. “It’s Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work,” … Read More
in Art of Business, Art of Personal Development