In today’s episode, we cover happiness and human nature with Gretchen Rubin.
Gretchen is a five-time New York Times bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker, and the creator of the Four Tendencies framework.
Our problem isn’t caring what other people think. Our real problem is caring what people think who don’t care about us. We want to stop worrying about the approval from strangers. We’re not at our best when we do things only for approval. This is fine when we do it for the people we care about. It’s a problem when we do it for people we won’t ever see again.
“Hmmm. Probably on drugs – I mean, look at that hair.” “No doubt, he was definitely up all night partying.” “Pfft. Dude thinks he’s too cool for school. Probably a total douchebag.” “I bet he can barely string a full sentence together.” Sometimes, it’s as if I can read people’s thoughts like they’re written in speech bubbles over their heads. … Read More
Self-sabotaging social behavior tends to be impulsive and automatic. This means you could plan to do better, only to have your own actions undermine everything once you’re uncomfortable again. Although this can make it very hard to make progress towards your goals, it is entirely possible to correct your course.
We’ve all heard the saying you don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression. But whether we’re at a bar, a baseball game, or in the boardroom, most of us probably don’t know how to take advantage of that first and only opportunity to become a positive blip on someone’s radar. And trust me, that strong first … Read More
Years ago, I had to make a decision: Continue my Ph.D., or pursue my desire to help people develop their social skills. One option would lead to a stable and secure life, and it would be in a job I didn’t enjoy. The other path was filled with uncertainty, but I’d be doing something I was passionate about. Since you … Read More
In 1992, Dr. Gary Chapman published “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”. His book sparked a new way of thinking about love by outlining five ways to express and experience love that Chapman calls “Love Languages”. It was so wildly successful that it’s been a bestseller ever since and created many spin-off books, including … Read More
Let’s imagine a situation we are all familiar with… You’ve made plans to meet a friend for lunch and you’re sitting at the table waiting. Your stomach starts to grumble. He was supposed to be here ten minutes ago! “That’s okay,” you think to yourself, “he probably hit traffic or got tied up at work.” Another ten minutes go by. … Read More