Top 10 Things Girls Find Attractive

What are the top things girls find attractive? Of course, every woman is different, but there are some things that most women just can’t resist. The good news is that a lot of these things can be cultivated, meaning that if you don’t have them now, you can get them. Here’s our top ten list of things girls find attractive.

man and woman looking documentConfidence

When it comes to attracting women, confidence is king. Best of all, you don’t have to actually be confident to project confidence. Good posture and a winning smile can go a huge way toward making you look like you’re brimming with it — even when you’re not.

Sense of Humor

There’s a reason that this tops so many polls of what women are looking for in magazines: Humor projects confidence while also dismantling some of the natural anxiety that exists in any public social interaction, and it’s one of the most universal things girls find attractive.


Women don’t care so much about where you’re at. They care more about where you’re going and what you’re doing to get there. If you’re a line cook with aspirations of becoming an executive chef and then opening your own restaurant, you’re a lot better off than a well-paid office drone who is just coasting by.


You don’t have to be a huge fashion plate. Just a little attention to a few details can make all the difference in terms of your style. Make sure that your clothes fit, are clean and are a match for your age and position in life. That’s all it takes.


Smiling is another great way to make yourself appear confident. What’s more a smile also makes you look friendly and inviting. That’s something that’s worth it’s weight in gold in basically any situation in life, whether it has to do with girls or not.

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A Plan

Do you have a plan for your life or are you just coasting through it? A plan without drive isn’t worth a whole lot, but drive without a plan is even more useless.

A Well-Kept Apartment

If you’re going to bring a woman back from a bar or club, your place should be clean and organized. You should also have something light to offer her to eat, as well as something to drink that’s not alcohol — though you should have alcohol too. There were times in the past when men took pride in their bachelor pads. We at The Art of Charm are in favor of bringing those days back.


Passion is like drive, but a little different. Do you get worked up about things? Whether it’s baseball, politics or feeding homeless kids, women love a man who has passion for something… anything.

Good Hair

This can mean a good head of hair or a good haircut. One you’re born with, the other you can buy. There are tons of old timey barbers in any city of any size that can help you to get the right haircut for your style and face.

A Good Body

A good body is going to help you, but it’s listed last here for a reason: A guy with a good body and none of the above isn’t going to have the easiest time meeting and sustaining attraction with women. On the other hand, a guy without a good body only needs two or three of the above things girls find attractive to become a ladies man.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1152 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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