You’d be surprised how many older guys we get at The Art of Charm; guys in their late-30s or even late-40s come and sit on our couch for many of the same reasons that younger guys do: They want to learn more about dating skills and women, of course, but they’re also looking for a way to meet new people, have more fun and generally get more out of life. We’re more or less of the opinion that it’s never too late for an old dog to learn new tricks. So here are some tips for gentlemen in their 30s, 40s and beyond to keep in mind.
Your Experience Is an Asset
A lot of older guys tend to think of their age as something they need to work against. Maybe so, but that’s a choice. In fact, your experience is an asset. You’ve been around the block a time or two. You know what it is that you’re looking for. You’ve probably acquired some skill when it comes to talking to women and dating along the way. A lot of younger women prefer older men precisely for these reasons. Stop trying to downplay it, start owning it and reap the benefits.
You’ve Got to Bring Some Excitement
One thing to keep in mind is that, no matter what woman you’re dating, you’ve got to bring some kind of excitement to the equation. This might actually especially be true with women your own age. A lot of guys your age are just going to be content with the standard dinner-and-movie date. You can take things to the next level by taking her on more action-oriented or out-of-the-way dates. It’s a great, fast way to distinguish yourself from the rest of the pack.
Act Your Age, But Not Dead
Like we said above, you don’t need to act like you’ve got one foot in the grave just because you’re in your mid-30s or even in your late-40s. But the thing is, nor should you be going out of your way to show off how “young at heart” you are. The important thing with dating is to be your best, most confident self at all times. Don’t feel like you have to be someone else to generate interest. It probably won’t work and even if it does, it’s not a sustainable way to create attraction.
Don’t Skip Online Dating
Online dating is a great way to meet women. We have whole articles filled with tips on how to get the most out of your online dating life. The online dating scene has changed a lot even in the last couple of years. It’s not this stigmatized thing anymore. On the contrary, it’s a way that millions of men meet just the right woman for them. Sign up, get a profile and massively expand the pool of women you can go on dates with by getting into online dating.
You’ve Got Options
Sometimes older men can feel like they’ve got to find one before they’re past their sell-by date. We encourage all men, regardless of age, to cultivate an abundance mentality. Basically what that means is that you act as if you’ve got all of the best, smartest, most beautiful women in the world right in your smartphone. Then act accordingly. There’s no magic bullet when it comes to dating skills and women; it’s very simple. Never sell yourself short. Never settle for less. No matter who you are or how old you are, there’s someone out there for whom you’re just right.