Questions to Ask A Girl Over Text

Guys are often searching for the perfect questions to ask a girl over text. Whether they are trying to start a conversation with a woman over text, find the best way to ask the girl out, or get a girl re-engaged in conversation– they know that the right question can make all the difference. For questions to ask a girl over text that cover all those areas – and will get women to respond positively – check out the texting tips for men below.

Attorney - young asian woman lawyerStarting a conversation with a girl over text
Often guys will try to start conversations with women over text is by sending the girl a text a message like: “hey, what’s up?” But there’s a big problem with texting girls a question like that. It’s boring. Texting a girl that question makes you look no different than every other guy out there.

Instead, when starting a conversation with a woman over text, make your texts to girls a bit more interesting. For example, texting a girl “so what kind of trouble are you getting into today?” is essentially a more fun and playful way of asking “what’s up?” It adds an element of banter to the conversation since it assumes she’s a ‘troublemaker’. A little tweak like this can make your texts to girls more interesting and engaging – which means it’s more likely you’ll get the girl to respond to your text.

Fun ways to ask a girl questions over text
Rephrasing your questions are not the only way to make your texts to girls more interesting. Another trick to making the questions you ask girls more fun and engaging is to ask a girl a question – and then playfully answer the question for her.

For example, instead of texting girls a question like “what are you up to this weekend?” try texting the girl something along the lines of “What are you up to this weekend? Let me guess, taking a speed knitting class and knitting me a scarf? You’re too sweet!”

Answering the question in a silly, over-the-top way provides a great opportunity to start some playful banter with the girl and get a fun conversation going.

How to ask a girl out over text
Having fun questions to ask a girl and getting a conversation with a woman going over text is great, but all that will be for nothing if you don’t know how to ask a girl out over text.

When asking a girl out over text, you want to make your date invitation as enticing as possible. You can do this by highlighting the awesome things she’ll get by going out with you. Rather than diving straight into asking “Want to get drinks Thursday?” you can first highlight the benefits by asking the girl a question along the lines of “Do you like tacos, margaritas, good music, and great company?”

Once you get a woman to imagine all the great benefits that come with going on a date with you, she’s going to start getting interested and excited. The more excited she feels the better chance you have of getting the girl to go out with you.

How to ask a girl out over text (without actually asking her out)
Another way to ask a girl out over text is to do it without technically asking her out. That is, give her an open invitation to join you in something you’re already doing anyway. A great benefit to this way of asking a girl out is that it eliminates the tension and expectation that might be associated with an official date.

Here’s an example of how to ask a girl out without technically asking her on a date: “I got to go shopping for winter clothes and could use a girl’s eye if you wanna tag along and give me tips on what accentuates my hips!”

As with the other questions to ask a girl over text, the more fun and playful you can make this invitation the better. Mixing playful banter into the conversation with the woman will help get her smiling and means you’ll have a better chance of getting the girl to agree to meet you.

Re-engaging a girl through text
If things with a girl have fizzled out and you haven’t texted the girl in a while, what you’ll need to is re-ignite that attraction with the woman. Get things rolling with a little banter and remind her of why she found you so fun and interesting in the first place. Put that banter in the form of a question and she’ll feel more compelled to respond.

One banter technique you can use when texting a girl and hoping to re-engage her is to request something absolutely outrageous from her. For instance you could ask the girl a question along the lines of “So it’s pretty hot out at the pool right now, could you come with a big leaf fan and feed me grapes? Thanks ”.

There’s no need to ask a girl a question like “so what ever happened to you?” as that can just make things awkward. A question that’s really just playful banter and gets the girl to smile can do wonders in re-engaging a woman in conversation.

Last resort text to a girl
If you haven’t heard from a girl in a while and your playful re-engaging text to the girl didn’t work, there’s still one last question to ask the girl that could re-ignite a conversation with the woman. It’s a question that puts her in a position where if she doesn’t respond, she’ll lose contact with you forever. That fear of loss might just be the push she needs to realize she’s interested in you after all.

Here’s an example of what to text a girl to create that sense of urgency: “haven’t heard from you in a while, is this still your number? I’m deleting numbers to clean up my phone”.

If she doesn’t respond to this text it’s a sign the girl has moved on and it’s time you should to – perhaps by actually deleting her number. If she does respond, it gives you a foundation to build on. You can then use the some of the banter techniques mentioned above to re-build attraction with the woman.

(For more tips on how to text girls, check out the Art of Charm Podcast on how to text girls as well as the article on Text Game)

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.


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