How to Pick Up a Girl at the Mall

Picking up girls at the mall? Sure. Why not? A lot of men make the mistake of thinking that approaching women and talking to them is only for the bar and the club. The mall is filled with women. Why not try and chat them up? If you go about it the right way, you might find that you have a great new place to meet, approach and get dates with women. Here are The Art of Charm’s tips for how to pick up a girl at the mall.

Before You Approach

Your approach really begins before you even actually approach. Take a minute, collect yourself, make sure that you’re looking your best. Are you smiling? Standing up straight? Shirt tucked in? Give yourself a quick once over before you approach.

One of the best things to do to facilitate your approach in any situation is to make sure that your posture and smile are where they need to be.

How to Approach

When you approach a girl at the mall, a good way to do it is walk up behind her, get a few paces in front and then turn and start talking. Otherwise, just approach from the front and then pivot to the side. Approaching from the back can be intimidating to some women, hence why, even if you’re behind her, you get out in front a little bit before making your entrance. If you have a wingman, he should approach first, with you following behind 30 seconds later or so.

Opening the Conversation

The Art of Charm teaches that men should open conversations with banter. This is light, playful and content-free behavior. It’s especially important to lead with banter when you’re approaching a woman at a place different from a bar or a club. Being approached by strangers can be stressful even in places where it’s “acceptable.” It’s even more unnerving when done somewhere that’s not ostensibly for that kind of socializing. How to pick up a girl at the mall successfully, rather than interrogating her with personal questions (“What do you for work?”), start out light and playful (“Do you know where I could steal a good outfit?” delivered with a smile).

Keeping it Concise

Unlike at a bar or a club, where a woman is out to socialize, if she’s at the mall, she’s on a mission, even if that mission is “stroll around window shopping.” What you want to do is keep things concise. Get in, get the number and get out. Make her smile and laugh a bit with banter, then tell her that you think she seems pretty cool, then chat about “getting to know you” type stuff for a few minutes, then go right into getting her number.

Remember, when it comes to creating attraction, less is almost always more.

Getting Her Number

When it comes time to get her number, don’t ask: tell. Say that you need her number so that the two of you can get together somewhere other than the mall. Then hand her your phone, ready to receive her number. Rattle off some killer date ideas while she enters it, then text her immediately with something like “Hey, this is the super sexy guy you just met.”

AJ Harbinger - author of 1171 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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