It’s Not Rocket Science: How to Get a Girl to Like You

Get a Girl to Like YouIf you’re wondering how to get a girl to like you, it’s actually a lot easier than you think. The problem isn’t anything with you inherently. Rather, you just haven’t been given the right tools to create attraction. Today we’re going to change that. This article is going to get you started on the right foot so that the next time you go out you can start getting girls to like you more often than not.

Attraction Begins With Approach

The first thing you need to do to get things going on the right foot is approach her the right way. Confidence is the key to how to get a girl to like you. We know that approaching women can be difficult and doing it with confidence can be even harder. However, you can easily fake confidence with three simple behaviors:

  • Smiling: Smiling with your whole face, not just your mouth, projects an image of confidence and friendliness.
  • Posture: Standing up straight with your shoulders back and relaxed communicates confidence as well
  • Approaching Immediately: When you notice a woman that you’re interested in, you’re going to want to approach her immediately, and without delay.

Get these three things down and you’ll start projecting confidence even when you don’t have it — she won’t be any the wiser.

Social Situations Are Stressful: Help Her Relax

When you’re out at a bar or a club, everyone is a little on edge. This is because social situations are inherently stressful. Everyone is worried about what other people think of them and looking for cues that it’s OK to have a good time. This means that if you can get her to relax a little bit, you’ve already won half the battle. Do this by starting out with light, playful banter that gets her laughing and smiling. Both of these things are immediate stress releasers. Compare to what most men normally do; Ask personal questions. Get her to associate you with the moment that she was able to relax and start having fun and she’s going to start chasing after you.

Let Her Know That You’re Interested

A lot of guys are afraid to show interest because they think it’s better to be standoffish. Other men show too much interest and put women on edge because they’re looking for approval. The Art of Charm teaches a middle path: Show interest in a clear and general way once as a means of opening the door for further conversation. Simply say “I dig you, what’s your deal?” or “You seem all right. Tell me three things about you that I’d never guess.” This lets her know that you’re interested while also opening the door to more serious, getting-to-know-you type of conversation.

Keep Her Talking

Keeping her talking to you is the name of the game. You want to do this in a way that keeps her interested and engaged. Ask her open-ended questions that allow her to talk about herself and how she feels about things. Find the emotional core of what she’s just said (i.e. what she “really” just said), repeat it back to her in your own words and then talk about how it relates to you.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1167 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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