Getting Back on the Horse: Recently Divorced Dating Tips

Recently Divorced Dating TipsGetting divorced is one of the most emotionally draining things that a person can go through. There have probably been times when you thought you’d never date again. But now is the time to get back on the horse. These dating tips for the recently divorced will help you to navigate the new world you find yourself in.

Invest in Yourself

Your marriage is over and chances are good that the final days weren’t great. You feel really drained and you’ve spent a lot of energy on someone else. Now it’s time to spend time, energy and money on yourself. This should come even before you start dating, not because you need to get better for someone else. On the contrary; This is about you doing something for you. Take a class, hit the gym or go on that dream trip you always wanted to. It’s a great way to better yourself, increase your self-esteem and have fun.

Take Time For You

The Art of Charm recommends that men prioritize their time: First comes your career, then your passions, then your social life. Before you start making time for dating, take some time for you. Read books, go on walks, get comfortable with alone time. It’s going to make your time more valuable. It’s also going to allow you to be more selective when the time comes to date.

It’s Time: Getting Back on the Horse

Once you’ve taken some time to improve yourself and given yourself a bit of space, it’s time to get out there and start dating. Dating for the recently divorced can be difficult, but it’s not impossible and besides — you have to start some time. Getting back out there and getting in the game is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.

Have Fun Filtering

When you’re recently divorced and dating, you have an advantage that other men not in the same boat as you don’t have: You have a much better idea of what you want and what you don’t want. This means that you should have fun filtering women. What do we mean by filtering? Basically, it means that you should be selective. After all, you want more date, but you also want better dates. Don’t be afraid to cut women from the race for your time. You’ve only got so much of it to go around. Reserve it for the people that you really want to spend it with.

The Game Should Be Fun

When you’re getting back out there, the main thing to remember is that you should be having fun. Go on killer dates and always make the goal having the most fun possible. In the course of having fun you’re going to find someone special. Until that time comes, keep the focus on having a great time and being the life of the party. Go on lots of dates, but try and make them all the best date possible. Enjoy the process as much as the end result.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1132 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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