If you don’t build rapport, you’re probably never going to get the date. Even worse, if you go on a date without first building rapport, there’s a good chance that you’re going to be going on dates with all the wrong women. Who has time to waste on bad dates? Not men from The Art of Charm. Read on to learn more about why building rapport is important and how you can do it, ensuring not just more dates, but better dates.
Building rapport with women is crucial. The reason being, that it’s the core of the emotional connection that you make with another person. Sure, going on a lot of dates is great. But don’t you want to go on better dates with better women? Rapport is a great way for you to see who you have a connection with and who you don’t before you even go out for the evening. Best of all, there are some very simple things that you can do to encourage rapport between you and a woman. Most importantly, women are more likely to go on a date with a man that they feel they already have a sense of rapport with.
The Importance of Open-Ended Questions
When it comes to building rapport before, during and after a date, there’s nothing better than open-ended questions. For example, don’t ask a woman what she does for a living. Ask her what she finds rewarding about her job. You can also ask stock open-ended questions like “If money were no object what would you do with your life?” and “What are the three places you’d most like to travel to and why?”
If you have trouble coming up with open-ended questions of your own, don’t worry: We’ve gone ahead and come up with a few just for you to help you establish rapport before you get the date.
Questions About Her Past
Questions about her past can be about anything from her childhood to ten seconds before you walked up to her. You want to keep your questions about the past light and also frame them in such a way that she can give you information that she wants to give you, while omitting other information. For example, you can ask her things like what she liked about where she grew up, what kind of person she was in college or what she did for fun when she was in high school. Listen attentively, recap what she just said to you, then share your own story.
Questions About Her Present
When you build rapport by asking her about her present, you’re not so much asking her what she’s doing right at that very second. You’re asking her more about what’s going on in her life at the moment. You can ask her what excites her about what she does for a living, what kind of plans she has for the future and what the most important things in her apartment are to her or what she never leaves the house without. Questions about the present build rapport, but also let you to know where she’s going as well as where she’s at.
Questions About Her Future
Asking a woman about her future isn’t so much asking her to be a fortune teller. It’s asking her to tell you about where she wants to go in life. Everyone has dreams and it’s better if they have plans. When your plans and hers coincide, that’s killer. Where you want to be in life and sharing that in common speaks a lot more than where you’ve been or where you’re at in many cases.