What is the Best Dating App for You?

Best Dating App for YouDating apps have caught fire in the past year and a half.  But what is the best dating app for you?  Here’s a breakdown of some of the more common dating apps that will help you find the best dating app for your situation.

Tinder
This might be the best dating app for you simply because it’s so well known.  There is no shortage of women to message and potentially meet up with as thousands of women are hopping on and off this dating app all the time.

The fact that women are constantly jumping on and off Tinder is a good reminder not to take this too seriously.  Don’t spend twenty minutes agonizing over what message to send.  Or worrying about whether you get a response or not.  When sending that first message just keep it short, punchy, and have fun.

While we’re on the subject of first messages – don’t wait for or expect a girl to message you first.  She’s already got a flood of guys messaging her so she doesn’t need to send out any first messages.  So send the first message yourself while keeping it fun and playful.  Do that and you have a good shot at standing out from the other guys sending the same boring lines.  (For a free in-depth report on how to succeed with Tinder – including examples of what to say in your first message – click here).

Hinge
While an app like Tinder is more focused on quantity, Hinge is more focused on quality.  Instead of just introducing you to any woman within a certain radius, Hinge introduces you to women who share the same Facebook friends as you.  So you’re more likely to have things in common with the women you meet through this app.

Hinge is also less of a “hookup” app and more of a proper dating app.  So when planning to meet up with girls you meet on Hinge you’re going to want to come up with a fun date idea for the two of you.  Instead of just meeting for drinks or dinner, do an activity together.  Check out some live music, go bowling, take her out on a hike – do something active that’s fun in its own right.  This will help ease that first date tension and make it easier for you both to relax and enjoy yourselves.  (You’ll also have a better chance of her saying “yes” to your offer for a date when you suggest a fun activity.)

Happn
Interested in that girl you walked by at the coffee shop and kicking yourself for not saying hi when you had the chance?  Happn will help you get that second chance.  This App gives you the profiles of single women in your immediate area so you won’t have to suffer through anymore “missed connections” (click here to learn more about this app).

Since Happn uses the GPS in your phone it’s going to eat at your phone’s battery life pretty quickly.  So you’ll want to be sure to charge it frequently if you’re going to take advantage of this new dating app.

Coffee Meets Bagels
If you want something more low-key then Coffee Meets Bagels is what may very well be the best dating app for you (check it out at coffeemeetsbagel.com).  With this App you get matched up with one girl each day at noon.  If you like each other, you’ll get the chance to shoot her a message and meet up for lunch or coffee.

A potential benefit of meeting women with this dating app is that grabbing coffee in the daytime is a pretty low-key event.  You may not feel the pressure of a “real date” that you might experience meeting a girl for dinner or drinks at night.  Plus, when meeting a girl in the daytime environment it’s often much easier for you each to relax and be your authentic selves.

At the end of the day if you are interested in that more laid-back meeting, and don’t want to deal with scrolling through all sorts of profiles each day, then this might be the best dating app for you.

Mixxxer
If you’re not really interested in “dating” and just want to get straight to hooking up, then you may want to look into mixxxer.  It’s not free, but that’s often a good thing.  After all it means the women using it have skin in the game.  Since they are paying to use it they are going to take it more seriously and be more engaged than if it were free.

More dating apps and resources
Instead of doing a lot of work researching what the best dating app is, you might be better of trying a bunch out and seeing for yourself what is the best dating app.  After all there’s no rule that you have to pick just one.  You can always use several different dating apps at a time to meet as many women as possible.

While you’re at it you may want to utilize online dating websites as well.  Since the profiles are longer there you’ll have more opportunity to show off your personality.  It will also give you a chance to learn more about the women before you message them, so you can decide if it’s worth sending that message.

Now just be sure that when you write your online dating profile you do it when you’re in a positive, upbeat mood.  When you’re in this state of mind you’re automatically going to have more fun, be more creative, and wind up with a more engaging profile than if you did it when you were feeling down.

Going beyond dating apps
There’s no getting around it – dating apps are very much a numbers game.  So don’t let them be your only means of meeting women.  Use them as a supplement – as something to check out for just a few minutes a day.  Because there are plenty of women out right now, at farmers markets, grocery stores, coffee shops, parks, book stores, etc. who would love to meet a guy in real life.  So give these women what they want.  Go up, say hi, and get a conversation going the old fashion way.  For tips on how to do that, click here.

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.

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