How to Ask for a Girl’s Number Without Seeming Awkward

You’ve been chatting with her half the night and things are going well. Then it comes time to seal the deal and… you totally blow it when you ask for her number. Has this ever happened to you? If so, you’re in good company. Nearly every man has fumbled when going for her number. Keep reading to find out how to ask for a girl’s number the right way.

Step 1: How to Ask for a Girl’s Number? Wait for a High Point

The first mistake you can make that nearly always makes things super awkward is waiting until some of the energy has petered out of a conversation before you ask for her number. Instead, we want to strike while the iron is hot and ask for a girl’s number when she’s laughing, digging you and generally having a great time. You’ll have plenty of time to socialize after and asking for a number does not have to be a parting gesture.

Step 2: Get Your Phone Ready

One of the things that you want to do when asking for a phone number is make it as easy as possible for her to give it to you. Remove her reasons for saying no. To this end, before you even go for the number, get your phone ready on the contacts page with her name typed in and the cursor in the mobile phone field. All she should have to do is type her number in.

Step 3: Tell, Don’t Ask

How to ask for a girl’s number? Don’t ask. Instead, tell her that you need her number so that you can call her sometime. You’re a confident man who is used to getting numbers from women. The two of you are having a great time together. Why would she say no? Just go ahead and tell her that you need her number to get in touch with her as if it’s totally obvious that she wants to see you again.

Step 4: Break Her Bubble

When you go to get the number, hand her your phone while you tell her that you need it. Break into her personal space bubble with the phone. The chances are almost 100 percent that she’s going to take it out of your hands and start sticking her phone number into it.

Step 5: Have Date Ideas Ready

One of the best things that you can do after she takes your phone is start talking about some stuff that you can do together. Reference mutual interests that the two of your have discussed throughout your conversation. This is a good time to show that you’re not just going to ask her out for “dinner and movie,” but that you want to do something really fun with her.

A last word of advice: Don’t ever celebrate after you get her number. This is just something that you do all the time. It’s not a big deal.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1161 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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