Boom. Episode 400!
Meet and connect with the right kind of people.
“Everyone entering your life on a social level is an opportunity to grow your network.” -AJ Harbinger
The Cheat Sheet:
- The four groups you need to have in your life.
- How to get introduced to a cute girl’s friends.
- Opportunities for adding value and how to spot them.
- One specific tip to meeting your neighbors.
- How social media can help you chose your new friends.
- And so much more…
One question we get asked frequently is how to make new friends when you move to a new place. This question goes hand in hand with our advice to surround yourself with people you want to be like. And today’s episode gives you practical advice on how to do just that.
Whether you’re moving somewhere new, have already moved or simply want to expand your social circle, this show will explain the four groups you need to have in your life, how to find those groups, and run people through a “social sales funnel”. Listen in for all of that and more on the 400th episode of The Art of Charm.
More About This Show:
The axiom of “you become the five people you spend the most time with” is one of core teachings of this show. Today we’ll share with you how to meet more people you want to be like, whether you’ve just moved to a new town or not.
There are four groups you should always have in your life and they are:
1. An all-men’s group.
This should be a group of men you get together with regularly. It could be an entrepreneurial group of guys who meet regularly or a mentoring type group. This group is important because it gives you a chance to grow your leadership skills.
2. A coed group.
Once you have your all-men’s group find a coed group. This could be a group of men and women who meet often to play some kind of sport or do another activity together. The website Meetup.com is a great place to find groups like these. This group is important because you’ll have opportunities to learn and apply other diplomatic skills with both men and women.
3. Your show-off group.
This is your next group to find after finding groups one and two. In the show-off group you’re going to be showing off what makes you unique. Are you a great coder or great at cooking? A drummer, guitarist, aspiring comedian? That is your show off group.
4. A charity or community-focused group.
Find a group where you can contribute to a charity or a community-based group. This can be as simple as attending an annual charity event, but it adds a richness and a depth to you, your social circles and your personality.
So once you’ve got all four groups in your life, you can begin the “social sales funnel”. There are some basic steps in the funnel.
The first is to find people from your four groups you hit it off with. Then find opportunities to hang out with them. Thirdly add value to those opportunities, like bringing a good bottle of whiskey to a boy’s night of poker.
Finally get to know your new friends on social media and if they seem like great people, host a regular event and invite them (and have them invite their friends!).
AJ and Johnny give us the full scoop on the social sales funnel and creating the friendships and relationships you really want on this edition of The Art of Charm.
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