768: How to set boundaries that set you free

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Establishing boundaries can feel intimidating if you’ve never successfully set them before, so why are they so important when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships? Why does a lack of boundaries often lead to undesirable outcomes? What formula can you follow to start setting boundaries today? We’ll answer all those questions this episode.

What to Listen For

  • What is causing most of the problems in your communication and how can you become more aware of them?
  • Why is it important to set boundaries early on and how do you set boundaries respectfully?
  • How can you be more proactive in dealing with conflict?
  • Who is more likely to win in arguments and why does it not matter in the way you might think it does?
  • What is the best way to approach someone who refuses to acknowledge clearly defined boundaries?
  • Why does a lack of boundaries lead to resentment?
  • How does too much freedom in a relationship lead to you feeling miserable?
  • Why is it important to have clearly defined boundaries between home and work if you don’t have a dedicated work space and how can a lack of boundaries be detrimental to your productivity and your personal relationships?
  • How can you be assertive without coming across as disrespectful?
  • What formula can you follow to establish clear boundaries in your relationships and how can you make it a respectful cooperative effort?

Setting boundaries in a relationship can feel like you are telling someone how to act – but in reality, setting and enforcing healthy boundaries allows you to be comfortable being yourself while communicating who you are and who you want to be to the people you care about. We all have different definitions of what it means to treat someone well and respect their time, so if you don’t communicate YOUR definition of what that is, don’t assume people can read it directly from your mind.

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Resources from this Episode

Episode 767: How to master communication in a relationship
Episode 725: Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura

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AJ Harbinger - author of 1175 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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