Understanding “why girls don’t like me” can be difficult. Not because the reasons are complicated – but because the truth can hurt. In order to become the guy more women are attracted to you may have to change. I don’t mean change into someone you’re not, just change into a better version of yourself.
That being said, here are the top five explanations for “why girls don’t like me”. If you identify with any of these, that’s good. That means you’re one step closer to making that change.
1. Negative attitude
Are you the kind of guy who:
- Plays the “victim” card and whines about how life is so unfair? Do you think everyone in the world has it easy except you? Actually asks people
why girls don’t like me?”
- Is always complaining; talking about how lame everyone and everything is?
- Constantly focuses on things he lacks (money, looks, a six-pack)?
Do guys who think this way seem like they’d be fun to hang out with?
If you’ve got a negative attitude girls will feel that negativity when they’re around you. Girls don’t want to hang out with someone that puts them in a shitty mood. She’d rather find someone who can boost her spirits.
Is your life interesting? Are you out there living and making the best out of your situation? Do you look for new experiences, to grow as a person, and do your best to live an awesome, kick-ass life?
The women you meet are always going to be wondering “what does this guy have to offer?” If you have a great life (and you DO NOT need to be rich to live a great life) she’s going to want to be a part of it. If you spend your days playing xbox in your underwear and drinking til you pass out… women won’t be too eager to join in.
Ask yourself this: If a woman saw how you spend an average week, would she want to be a part of your life? If the answer is no, what could you do to make your life better and therefore become more attractive?
3. Your intent
When you interact with an attractive woman, what’s your goal?
If it’s “I want her to like me” then you’re in trouble. This makes a guy either come across as fake or needy. Either way the woman won’t be attracted to him.
On the other side is the “I just wanna get laid” guys. They basically see girls as a sex object rather than, you know, an actual human being. Most women don’t like the idea of just having sex then being discarded, so they keep away from this kind of guy.
4. Your confidence
Confidence is essential, but too much of it (ie: arrogance) is a turn-off. Girls want to feel noticed and appreciated. If you’re too focused on how great you are to take the time to see how great she is, she won’t be sticking around too long.
Too much confidence will fuck things up for you in the long run. But if you lack confidence, you won’t get the chance to fuck things up in the long run. Confidence is the #1 thing all women look for and if you don’t have it, it’s hard to get anywhere.
When a guy checks out a girl he’s looking at her physical beauty. He’s looking for a pretty face, a hot body… and that’s about it.
But when a girl checks a guy out there’s a lot more going on. Sure she’ll notice his face and body, but what matters even more than physical features is how he presents himself. Is he well groomed? Does he look like he’s got his shit together? Does he care about the way he presents himself to the world?
We all make snap judgments about people based on how they look. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong, it’s just a fact of life. I do it. You do it. Pretty girls do it. You can either complain about it (strengthening reason #1 of” why girls don’t like me”) or you can get some decent jeans, nice shoes, keep clean, and improve your odds at attracting women.
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