At first looking to hire a social skills coach can feel odd. You may find yourself asking, what’s the point? If I need advice shouldn’t I just talk to my friends? Do I really need this? Can’t I just figure this stuff out on my own? Is it really worth the time, money, and effort to hire a social skills coach to get me where I need to be?
Let’s say you’re looking to meet more women and improve your dating life. You’re thinking about hiring a coach, but the objections mentioned above keep popping into your head. Let’s examine them.
Can’t I just use my friends?
Absolutely. Your friends are a great resource, but their advice is going to be limited. To them the idea of stopping a random girl on the street, or approaching a girl when she’s with a bunch of other people might seem ridiculous. They have a limited view based on what they’ve experienced in their own lives. They don’t have a deep understanding of attraction and dating because they’ve never made a point to learn about it. Their knowledge comes from what they’ve seen on TV and in movies and by passively learning through a handful of personal experiences.
A good coach has pushed these limits so far that he knows what’s possible. Unlike our friends a good coach has studied attraction, women and dating. He’s made the point to actively learn these skills and put the ideas into practice enough to know for certain what does/doesn’t work and why. And just as important as learning these skills, he also knows how to teach them.
Do I need this? I’m a good guy…things will work out eventually
Einstein famously said definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If what you’re doing hasn’t been getting the results you desire, you’re going to have to make a change.
Can’t I just learn this on my own?
Yes, you can. There are plenty of books you can sift through to learn the fundamentals of what makes someone charismatic and what women respond to in a guy. Some of these books are great, others are complete garbage. You can sift through them and slowly figure things out for yourself. You can go out to bars/clubs/malls/wherever and practice. You can push yourself past your comfort zone a little at a time. When you find it’s not working as well as you hoped, you can try and troubleshoot on your own. It will take a lot of time and practice, day after month after year.
Or you can hire a social skills coach who knows exactly what you should be doing. He can tell you the fundamentals and give you direction. He can push you into having more interactions then you would push yourself into so you’ll learn at a faster rate. One week with a quality coach can help you move forward to a place that would have taken months, if not years.
But it’s Expensive
Life is short, why spend another minute letting your dating life drag you down? You could spend that money on things (drinks, a new car, a beach vacation, etc.) but eventually the joy that new toy/temporary vacation brings you is going to fade. The drinks will be gone, the new car won’t look so shiny after a few months, and that vacation will just be a memory.
Instead of investing in external things that will bring you a temporary boost of satisfaction, invest that money in yourself. Become the type of guy you want to be and know you’re capable of becoming. Developing your social skills and will continue to pay dividends for the rest of your life. Rather than being a drain your dating life will become a source of joy and excitement and you’ll be living the life you’ve always wanted.
If you’re ready to make the jump that can only come by hiring a social skills coach, sign up for our weeklong boot camps available in LA.