Pros and Cons of Online Dating

Online DatingOnline dating has blown up over the years. An estimated 40 million Americans have taken to dating websites in hopes of enhancing their dating life. But is it worth it?  Or is it just a waste of time?

The answer to those questions may straight forward.  It’s not about answering “is online dating the right thing to do?”  It’s more about determining if meeting women online is right for you.

Below is a list of pros and cons that will help you decide if online dating is a viable option to improve your dating life:

Pro: Any stigma that may have existed about meeting women online is long gone.  Nowadays you’re more likely to run into couples who say “we met online” vs. “we met at a bar”.

Con: If you’ve never done anything like this before it can feel weird as shit emailing strangers.  It may take a little time to get used to.

Pro: All the girls online want to meet a guy.  Although the type of relationship their looking for can vary, the whole reason they made a profile was to meet someone like you.

Con: It’s a numbers game.  Not all (3/4 at best, could be half or even less) of your initial emails will get a response.  From there some women will drop off and only a percentage will meet up for a date.  If you’re emailing an attractive woman in her 20’s she’s going to have so many emails coming in that it’s easy to get lost in the mix (unless you know how to stand out, which is covered in detail in the AoC Online Academy)

Pro: You can connect with women without having to bother with things like “putting on pants”.  You don’t have to worry about dressing nice and getting into a good mental headspace.  If you’re tired or just not in any mood to be social you can throw out a few emails and connect with some great women.

Con: Sitting on a computer and interacting via email can get boring.  If you go out to a bar to meet women (even if you get shot down 1,000 times) you can still feel productive.  At least there you’re developing your social skills.

Pro: You can connect with a large amount of women in a small amount of time.  If you run out of attractive women to email, more will be cycling through soon enough.  Just take a 2-3 week break and let a new group of women roll in.

Con: Talking with someone via email is WAY different than face-to-face.  Simply experiencing what it’s like to be around someone often gives you a much better sense of who that person is.

Pro: You can screen a girl before you put any effort into talking to her.  Based on her pictures, what she says (and how she says it), and what you have in common, you can decide if the girl is even worth perusing or if it’d just be a waste of time.

Con: Profiles can be misleading – and sometimes a flat out lie.  For instance a girl may pick a rather flattering picture that doesn’t quite represent the current reality.  Not that this is a rampant issue, but it’s out there.

Guys will give different weights to each of the points mentioned above.  In the end whether or not you use online dating depends entirely on your personal preference.  It does provide a great option for guys to meet amazing women that they would not have met otherwise – but some guys would simply rather go out and have a real-life interactions instead.

Brian M - author of 191 posts on The Art of Charm

Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use.


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