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Gentlemen! So you want to know how to make someone like you over text, eh?

You’ve come to the right place.

I’m going to share with you some of my top tips for crafting the perfect text message that will have them crushing on you in no time.

But before we get started, let’s take a moment to acknowledge the fact that this whole process can feel daunting. I mean, how are we supposed to present ourselves in a way that’s both genuine and appealing through mere words on a screen?

Don’t worry, I promise it’s not as hard as it seems. With these proven tips, you’ll be winning them over in no time.

At its core, getting someone to like you over text messages is an extension of the banter lessons we teach at The Art of Charm.

The Key to Effortless Flirting Over Text

Whether you’re texting someone you just met or someone you’ve known for a while, the most important piece of advice is to have fun.

Keep your texts playful and lighthearted. Make someone smile and light up when they see your message and you are on your way to getting them to like you over text.

Flirting over text is like a modern dance of wit and charm, played out in digital letters. The key lies in striking a balance between playful teasing and genuine interest, all while keeping it light and fun. It’s about hinting at your interest without coming on too strong. For instance, instead of just asking how their day was, add a twist with something like, “Bet my day was crazier than yours! Care to compare notes?” It’s playful, prompts a response, and opens the door to deeper conversations.

Again, this is about being playful. Let’s say you challenge her to a “whose day was crazier” competition. You don’t have to talk about your actual day. Say something about how you were on the verge of curing cancer when a dinosaur smashed through the lab speaking Spanish and looking for the bathroom. Playful and lighthearted.

The beauty of text flirting lies in its subtlety and timing. Timing is crucial – knowing when to send that witty reply or a cheeky emoji can turn an ordinary conversation into an intriguing exchange. And remember, the best flirting often happens between the lines. It’s in the way you playfully challenge their opinions, share amusing anecdotes, or casually mention an activity you could do together. Just don’t make these common mistakes.

But how will you know if someone likes you or they’re just playing games?

5 Tell-Tale Texting Signs That Someone Is Into You

There are a lot of ways to tell if someone likes you based on how they text, but here are five of the most common texting habits that give it away.

Quick Replies: A Sign of Keen Interest

Short response times are the most obvious texting habit that clue you in on whether or not someone likes you.

If someone is excited to talk to you, the easiest way to tell is how quickly they respond to your messages. If they send a message back within minutes (or even seconds), it’s a good sign that they’re into you.

It’s even better if it turns into a back-and-forth conversation where you’re texting each other in real-time.

Inquisitive Texts: How Questions Show They Care

The next texting habit is whether or not they’re asking you questions.

Attraction stems from the curiosity you feel about someone, so if someone is into you, they will ask questions about you. They want to know more about who you are and what makes you tick.

Endless Conversations: Keeping the Textual Spark Alive

If someone likes you, they will want to keep talking to you.

They might ask another question right after sending you a text. Or after you answer a question they asked, they might answer it themselves without you asking.

Pay attention to how the conversation flows. If it feels like you’re pulling teeth after you start talking, it could mean they’re not into you (or they don’t like texting).

Sharing Vulnerabilities: A Deep Connection Through Texts

Being vulnerable can be scary.

And it can be scarier over text messages in the early stages because we can’t see facial expressions or body language. We can only read how they want to respond via text message.

But vulnerability is how we connect as humans. So if the other individual opens up and shares personal details about their life, it is a good sign they like you and trust you not to judge them.

Morning and Night Texts: The Sweetest Indicators of Affection

If someone texts you, they are thinking about you.

So, if someone is thinking about you in the morning, they are likely starting their day with good thoughts about you.

And if someone texts you good night, it means they’re ending their day thinking about you and how they hope to see you again soon.

Crafting Texts That Make Your Crush Smile and Laugh

“At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou

The goal then is to make people feel good whenever they’re texting you so they will associate you with positive feelings. And people want to spend time around people who make them feel good.

You may not be able to see their face, but here are some surefire ways to make your romantic interest smile by text:

Light Teasing: A Playful Way to Flirt Over Text

Don’t be afraid to poke fun at someone you’re texting in a playful, good-natured way. Not only does teasing someone makes them laugh, but it shows that you’re not just a suck-up.

Teasing alone can show that you have confidence, and this will help build attraction.

Here’s an example of a fun text to send someone that reflects this confident, playful teasing:

• “You’re a closet dork, aren’t you… except without the closet!”
• “When we go out on Friday… do you promise not to kidnap me?”
• “If we were on a sinking ship and there was only one life jacket left… I’d miss you tons and think of you often”

Predictive Texting: A Fun Guessing Game

Another way to have fun and keep your texts interesting is to guess how they might answer. This is a great way to turn boring text into a flirty text, separate yourself from others, and ultimately get them interested in you.

For example, your text could read:

• “What are you up to this weekend? Let me guess… taking a speed knitting class so you can make me a scarf! You are sooo sweet!”
• “How was your vacation? Wait, let me guess… you made friends with a mysterious old man who taught you how to be a master jewel thief!”

Text Roleplaying: Creating a Fantasy World Together

The same banter techniques that work in meeting and attracting someone in real life also work great over text. Initiate a scenario in which you’re already a couple in some capacity: a husband and wife headed toward divorce, a rock star and a groupie, a pair of buddy cops on the case—anything else you can think of.

Banter through made-up roleplay is great.

It provides a playful way to create a shared experience that makes the other person smile. The other person also feels more connected to you by sharing what your collaborative imaginations can come up with.

Examples to get roleplay rolling:

• “Green Sparrow, I’ve got the target in my sights! Should I take the shot? Over!”
• “I’m in the lab inventing a new ice cream flavor. What should I bring us home for dessert, dear?”
• “I’m putting together a crew for a bank heist this weekend. What skillset are you bringing to the table?”
• “I’m looking for a superhero sidekick. Tell me about the last time you saved the world from an evil supervillain.”

The Art of Making Them Pursue You Through Text Messages

When seeking romance, we tend to go for the ones who provide us with some kind of challenge—and this goes both ways. Make things too easy for your prospective partner and it will be a turn-off, so give them the chance to chase you.

You can do this by following these two texting tips:

Self-Disqualification: Igniting Their Interest

To look more confident and avoid coming across as needy, playfully disqualify yourself from your crush’s dating pool. That is a joke about how the two of you would never be right for each other.

You could, for instance, text something like: “Woah, woah! You like [thing s/he likes]? I didn’t know you were that type! I might have to get my mom’s permission just to kick it with you…”

By playfully pushing away like this, you create the space for them to chase you.

The Power of Texting Sparingly: Less is More

This is one of the worst texting mistakes as too much texting can destroy attraction. As a general rule, whoever is putting the most effort into communication is the one doing the chasing.

So if you want to be pursued rather than the pursuer, then you must not over-text.

Instead, look to keep the text ratio close to 1:1 and text the other person about as frequently as they text you.

How to Make Someone Feel Extraordinary Through Text

Another trick to make someone like you over text is to stroke their ego. Let them know they’ve made a positive impact on you and that they’re still on your mind.

An example of this would be:

• “I just saw the cutest little squirrel in the park gathering nuts and it made me think of you!”

A text like this is going to make the other person feel special—and making someone feel good is a surefire way to get them to like you.

Exploring Love and Texting: Can You Truly Fall in Love Over Messages?

You can start falling in love through texting, but to fall in love requires more than words on a screen. Text messaging is great for getting to know someone. It can help you figure out if there is a spark of chemistry present, but to fall in love with someone, you have to spend time together and get to know each other on a deeper level. If the two of you hit it off with a good conversation over text, then move on to meeting up for a date. If she already has a boyfriend, additional steps are required.

Don’t spend too much time texting because it’s easy for people to lose interest. There’s more to falling in love with someone than the words, emojis, and memes they use. 

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In a Nutshell

Whether you want to know how to make someone like you, turn a girl on over text, or you’re just looking for ways to make your text convos more interesting, we’re here for you.

Remember the tips:

• Have fun! If your love life isn’t fun, you’re doing it wrong.
• The 5 texting habits of someone who likes you. Short response times, asks questions, easy and fluid conversation, comfortable opening up, and good morning/night texts.
• Make your romantic interest smile by teasing playfully, making fun of yourself, guessing their answers, and roleplaying. Make them feel good about texting you and it will lead them to text you more.
• Make them chase you by disqualifying yourself and NOT over-texting. Disqualifying yourself makes you look confident because you don’t need anyone’s validation to feel good about yourself. And keep the 1:1 text ratio so you maintain your mystery and keep them wanting more.
• You can’t fall in love over text, but you can find out if there’s a spark of chemistry. If you want to fall in love, you have to spend time with someone.