How to Flirt with Girls Without Appearing Creepy

One of the most common fears that we run into here at The Art of Charm is guys who are afraid that women are going to think that they’re creepy. “How do I flirt with a girl without seeming creepy?” guys ask us. Well, the good news is that you’re probably not doing anything that girls think is creepy. But if you really want to make sure, here are five tips on how to flirt with a girl without coming off as creepy.

Approach Immediately

A lot of women tell us that the biggest thing a guy can do to appear creepy is to hang around without approaching. How do we combat this? By approaching immediately. Not only is it a real power move when it comes to appearing confident, it also eliminates the possibility that she’s going to think you’re creepy because you’re lurking around. But when you approach make sure that you…

Approach Confidently

Approaching confidently might be the most important thing when it comes to how to flirt with girls. What’s more, confident men are almost never considered “creepy.” So how do you approach confidently? First, you want to approach right away. Second, you want to stride up with a confident gait and your head held high. And the most important thing in how to flirt with girls is…


Smiling is one of the best tools that you can have in your toolbox, but you need to do it the right way: You need to smile broadly, with your whole face, including your eyes. You should spend a little time practicing your smile every night until you get it right. Smiling projects confidence and friendliness and it also helps out with our next step.

Keep It Light

When you start talking to a woman about where she lives, what she does for a living and other personal questions you’re going to set her a little on edge. This can have her thinking that you’re creepy. Instead, you want to keep things light. You want to ask her playful questions that get her laughing and smiling. This helps her to relax in an inherently stressful situation (socializing is always a little stressful) and creates a positive image in her mind of you as the guy who made her night much better.

Give Compliments About Things Other Than Her Appearance

She already knows that you think she’s attractive. If you didn’t think that, you wouldn’t have approached her in the first place. So give her a sincere compliment, but make it about something other than what she looks like, what she’s wearing or what you think of her makeup. When you do this, you show that you’re interested in who she is as a person, rather than just what she looks like or what she’s wearing.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1161 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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