Art of Charm Toolbox | Banter (Episode 409)


On this toolbox episode of The Art of Charm we'll talk about banter: how to be good at it, how to keep it playful and why you don't always have to be funny.

In this toolbox episode of The Art of Charm we’ll talk about the three characteristics you embody through banter, how to keep it playful throughout, and why you don’t have to be funny to be good at banter. “A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything.” -Malcolm X The Cheat Sheet: Do you always have to be funny … Read More


How to Banter Your Way Into a Date


You’re out at the bar or club. You’re bantering, flirting, having a great time. There’s one woman in particular that you have your eye on. Still, you end up going home alone and frustrated, without even her number. Has this ever happened to you? You’re not alone. The problem isn’t you. It’s just that no one has ever showed you … Read More


A Mindset That Can Turn Any Playful Banter Into Flirting (With Examples)


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Banter can become flirting through either a direct or indirect route. For example there’s playful banter such as role reversal (where you pretend she’ is hitting on you) which allows you to be sexual with a girl in a very direct way. You can also do the complete opposite, and can make banter turn into flirting by being indirect.


Banter Examples from A to Z


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When you’re engaged in banter examples, your body language is a powerful tool. The lion’s share of communication is based on body language. In addition to smiling and having good posture, you should also pay attention to how you stand in relation to your banter partner.


Keeping It Light: Can Banter Be Flirting?


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When it comes to flirting with banter, let her be the pace car. As a man, you want to be taking charge and have her be the one putting on the brakes. This shows confidence, but it’s also the best way to keep things moving forward.


Playful Banter Examples: Be the Funny Guy Who Gets the Girl


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When people are out and about at a bar or club, there’s a lot of pressure on. You want to look good, meet new people and have a good time, but you’re probably also a little nervous. So is everyone else. Humor is a great way to break up this tension, in both yourself and others and make people more relaxed.


Banter Examples: How to Roll With the Punches


Most banter examples focus on how to start a conversation. But what happens when there’s a conversation going and you hit a snag? This is common, but more importantly, it’s also an easy situation to deal with. Once you have the right tools, you’ll be able to roll with the punches, increasing your social value and getting her even more … Read More


Art of Charm Toolbox | Banter: Part 2 (Episode 8)


Banter Sexual Tension

This week, in the second of a two-part episode, AJ and Jordan outline another important tool: banter and role play. You’ll learn how to playfully take yourself and the women you meet mentally away from the social pressure of a pickup, allowing you to later generate solid rapport and connection. Continued from Banter: Part 1, AJ and Jordan cover more … Read More


Art of Charm Toolbox | Banter: Part 1 (Episode 6)


Pick-Up Banter

This week, in the first of a two-part podcast episode, AJ and Jordan outline another important tool: banter and role play. You’ll learn how to playfully take yourself and the women you meet mentally away from the social pressure of a pickup, allowing you to later generate solid rapport and connection. Part one focuses on role play; part two will focus … Read More