Dr. Sara Gottfried | Decoding Female Hormones (Episode #282)

When you understand these hormonal changes, it creates grace in a relationship. – Dr. Sara Gottfried

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Are you tired of not knowing how to cope with your woman’s hormonal cycles? Of not knowing when she’ll go from zero to crazy in .002 seconds? And what about your own hormones – can you manage them yourself so that you don’t feel tired and achy when you get up in the morning and grumpy when you come home at the end of the day?

Our guest for today’s show says yes to all of those questions. Dr. Sara Gottfried, author of The Hormone Cure, is a Harvard-trained medical doctor, wife, mother and yogini. And she’s here to give us the scoop on male and female hormones.


Dr. Sara is, as she puts it, board-certified in everything that can go wrong with a woman’s body. She knows firsthand what it’s like when hormones go haywire and it was her own personal experience that led her into deeper discovery on the topic.

After sorting out her own hormonal imbalances, Dr. Sara decided to specialize in helping others do the same with their hormone levels. Today she treats both men and women.

She’s also written a book on how to properly treat hormone imbalances and in this episode she shares much of her knowledge, her personal experiences and a lot of “how to” advice on all things hormones.

The finer details of this show include:

  • The three words to say to your woman when she’s complaining.
  • What is adrenal burnout?
  • What common birth control method can shrink the clitoris by as much as 20%?
  • What’s the hormonal cause of Grumpy Old Man Syndrome?
  • What is tilt and why does it ruin many relationships?
  • And so much more!

Dr. Sara and I dive deep into these topics and many more. We talk about the importance of knowing your woman’s hormonal cycle and how to cope with her different needs at different times of the month. For example, there are certain times when your woman will benefit more from getting together with her friends than she will from being with you. Dr. Sara tells us how to know when your woman needs her friends and when she needs you.

We also talk about the three main hormones for men and women. They are different (naturally) and Dr. Sara explores each.

For men, the top three are called “The Three Amigos” and they are testosterone, cortisol and thyroid. For the ladies, she dubbed their top three hormones “Charlie’s Angels”. They are estrogen, cortisol and thyroid.

She tells us why each hormone is important to their respective gender, how to know if any of the big three hormones are off-balance and what you can do to reset them to normal, healthy levels if needed. She also explains why you should get them checked regularly, at least every six months.

We also discuss the subject of tilt: what it is, why it happens and what to do about it. Tilt is when our nervous system gets overwhelmed. Tilt has a major impact on our overall personal health and also on the health of our relationships. Dr. Sara gives us symptoms to look for when questioning whether we’re in tilt or not and how to cope if we are and how to help our woman cope if she is.

And two other topics I made sure we touched on are the importance of orgasms in hormonal health and the three types of girls you should run from! Dr. Sara weighs in on both.

We packed SO much into this episode of The Art of Charm! I think Dr. Sara and I could’ve talked for a few more hours; she was an amazing guest with a fountain of knowledge. I really appreciate how generously she shared her time and her wisdom; I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed interviewing her!

Resources from this episode:

Dr. Sara’s web site

Dr. Leake on The Art of Charm


Andrew Weil, MD

Imago Relationships


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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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