How to Talk to Female strangers | How to Start a Conversation with a Stranger (Episode 711)

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“There are no strangers here, only friends you haven’t met yet.” – William Butler

Think about it – at one point in time, everyone in our lives was a stranger – even our closest friend.

Whether we are trying to strike up a conversation at a networking event, meeting someone at a bar, or just talking to your barista, the art of talking to strangers comes alive every day.

In today’s episode, we aren’t just discussing how to talk to strangers, but why doing so can improve our lives and increase our happiness. We will breakdown how to start a conversation with a stranger anytime and anywhere, even how to talk to a female stranger.

The Cheat Sheet

  • How can we use the F-E-A-R acronym to help define the types of fear fueling our anxieties? 10:47
  • Fusion 11:11 Expectations 19:26 Avoidance 30:48 Remoteness 34:47
  • What do Silicon Valley CEOs know about the influence of technology and connection? 13:17
  • Why is talking to strangers essential to growing our personal and professional networks? 37:46
  • How does talking to strangers bring out the best in us? 47:00
  • Could simply saying hello be the most underrated icebreaker? 53:57

“Most people aren’t going to give you a no, they’re going to respond to a hello” – AJ Harbinger

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AJ Harbinger - author of 1161 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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