748: 7 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

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About This Episode

Toxic relationships exist in all of our lives in varying degrees, but what defines a toxic relationship, how can you identify toxic relationships in your life, and what can you do if you find out you are exhibiting toxic behavior?

What to Listen For

  • What is the definition of toxic when it comes to relationships?
  • How do you recognize when a relationship is toxic and what can you do to rectify the situation or walk away from it?
  • What are the 7 surefire ways of identifying a toxic person and what is the best way to handle
  • How can you recognize when you are the toxic half of a relationship and what can you start doing now to make sure you don’t ruin the relationship?
  • What 2 simple questions can you ask yourself to determine if a relationship is toxic?
  • Can you rid yourself completely of toxic relationships?
  • What does it mean to be high value?
  • What are 3 high values behaviors you can identify in non toxic individuals and how can you implement them in your own life?
  • What does it mean to exhibit cooperative behavior and why is it important if you want healthy relationships and significantly less stress?

Toxic individuals and toxic relationships are an unavoidable part of interacting with other people. It’s a numbers game – if you meet enough people you will eventually bring toxic people into your life. That’s ok, what matters is how you handle the situation once it’s in front of you. And while toxic relationships can have a damaging impact on your life in a variety of ways, it’s important to remember that the toxic individuals are still human, and aren’t necessarily bad – they’re just bad for you.

We all go through phases in our lives and each of these phases asks different things of us and of those people we bring into our lives. It’s important for you to be conscious of what is good for you and what is detrimental, and just because a relationship or friendship is toxic for you at one time it does not necessarily mean that person can never be a part of your life. Establish boundaries, allow yourself to forgive from time to time, and prioritize your health and your needs – always put your oxygen mask on before helping the person next to you.

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Resources from this Episode

Episode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness | w/ Russ Harris


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AJ Harbinger - author of 1155 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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3 Comments on “748: 7 Signs of a Toxic Relationship”

  1. Pingback: Ep #37: Stop Playing the Waiting Game with Jesse Krieger - Trevor Blattner. The Top 1%.

  2. Passive aggressive behavior is often accompanied by gaslighting, or making the other person think they re crazy for even bringing it up. If you constantly feel like there s something off but when you try to talk to your partner about it you get shut down, you may be in a toxic relationship.

  3. Your podcasts about dealing with toxic people have been a lifesaver for me. I’ve been dealing with a co-worker that I now realize is a narcissist. For years, I thought I was the crazy one. The narcissist charmed me, then manipulated me and then gradually/systematically tore me down. When I called her on her behavior, she made herself into a victim. Now I’ve made clear boundaries and I minimize any interactions I have with this person. Thank you A.J. and Johnny!

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