About This Episode
Technology in the digital age has made it easier than ever to form new connections and stay in touch with old ones, but it’s also led to increased loneliness and flakiness as people rack up more screen time and less face time, so why is this, why is showing up so important in deepening your connections with others, and what does showing up actually mean?
Unfortunately, you may be paying the price of not knowing what that balance looks like if you’re not making a conscious effort to make new connections, deepen your existing ones, and actually show up for the people in your life.
What to Listen For:
- Why is digital communication made to make you feel good and not the person you’re talking to?
- Why do people flake and how do we overcome that flakiness?
- How can we deepen the connections we already have?
- Why do we tend to lose friends over time?
- The value of getting comfortable saying NO
- What does “showing up” for your friends actually entail?
- The tools to turn acquaintances into true connections and salvage friendships that might be drifting away
- Why is it more important to be there for the defeats rather than the victories?
- What one thing can you say to someone going through a tough time when you don’t know what to say
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Resources from this Episode
Reading Body Language: What Does It Mean
If you’re wondering why you’ve lost friends in adulthood, this is probably why by Jackie Luo
A More Or Less Definitive Guide To Showing Up For Friends by Rachel Wilkerson Miller, Anna Borges, Terri Pous, Gyan Yankovich
Trust and Betrayal – by Jillian Raftery, based on research by John Gottman
Trust and The Marble Jar Video – Brene Brown
Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi
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Applied Empathy by Michael Ventura (https://www.amazon.com/Applied-Empathy-New-Language-Leadership/dp/1501182854)
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Quotes:
“We feel strongly connected to those that we feel comfortable enough being vulnerable around.” – AJ
“If we want other people to be vulnerable around us, then we’re going to have to be vulnerable ourselves.” – Johnny
“The less we talk about shame the more we feel it.” – AJ
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” – Carl Jung
