Dating Tips for Men — Why Smiling Is So Important

Of all the things that you can do to immediately start leveling up your confidence and your social game, smiling is one of the biggest. When we give out dating tips for men, more often than not, we start by asking men if they are smiling. But why is smiling important and more to the point, what’s the right way to do it? Keep reading on to find out how this simple behavior can start changing your social life tonight.

Smiling Makes You More Approachable

You just look more friendly and approachable when you smile. Compare this to when you have a grimace or even a neutral expression on your face. Think about the women that you see out at bars and clubs: Aren’t you more likely to want to talk to a woman who is smiling? Start smiling when you go out and don’t be surprised when women start coming up to you rather than the other way around.

Smiling Reduces Stress

Scientific studies show that when you smile you’re less stressed out. This is great news for men who are naturally stressed out in social settings or suffer from acute approach anxiety. A little smell can decrease your anxiety levels to the point where you really start killing it every time that you hit the bar or club. Don’t trust us — trust the scientists who have been studying this.

Smiling Projects Confidence

Smiling makes you appear more confident to those around you. What’s more, it makes you feel more confident on the inside. This creates an awesome feedback loop where you smile, look more confident, get treated as a more confident man and act more confidently in the future. For men who are trying to gain confidence, it might be as simple as having a killer smile.

Smiling Raises Everyone’s Energy Levels

One of the best things that you can do when you’re out and about on a Saturday night is raise the overall energy level of a group dynamic. People will remember you as the guy who brought the party with him. Smiling gives you the energy to do that, while also showing other people that it’s OK to have a good time. It’s the first building block toward being the type of man that everyone — male and female — wants to be around, thus building your social value.

Smiling Helps Your Delivery

A lot of what we teach about banter only works when you’re smiling. If you deadpan it people might take it as hostile or belittling. Smile and they know you’re just joshing. Think of something as simple as “get out of here!” You can say this a lot of different ways, but a smile is what makes it a playful jest rather than a threat. Apply this to basically any banter situation and you’re going to find that you can get away with saying just about anything provided that you have a good smile on your face.

AJ Harbinger - author of 379 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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